{"id":11733,"date":"2023-08-01T11:48:31","date_gmt":"2023-08-01T08:48:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.millicozum.com\/mc\/ozel-yazilar\/qreisqlik-saplantisi-ve-narsizm-sapkinligi\/"},"modified":"2023-10-18T02:36:47","modified_gmt":"2023-10-17T23:36:47","slug":"qreisqlik-saplantisi-ve-narsizm-sapkinligi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.millicozum.com\/mc\/ozel-yazilar\/qreisqlik-saplantisi-ve-narsizm-sapkinligi\/","title":{"rendered":"“RE\u0130S”L\u0130K SAPLANTISI VE NARS\u0130ZM SAPKINLI\u011eI"},"content":{"rendered":"

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“RE\u0130S”L\u0130K SAPLANTISI<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

VE<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

NARS\u0130ZM SAPKINLI\u011eI<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Narsizm: Ki\u015finin kendisini ve g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015flerini kutsalla\u015ft\u0131rmas\u0131, daha do\u011frusu, nefsini putla\u015ft\u0131rmas\u0131d\u0131r. <\/span><\/strong>“Herkesin ve her \u015feyin kendisine hizmet ve itaat etti\u011fi kadar de\u011fer kazand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131”<\/span><\/em><\/strong> <\/span>sanmas\u0131d\u0131r. Her t\u00fcrl\u00fc nimet ve faziletin en iyisine ve en fazlas\u0131na kendisinin lay\u0131k oldu\u011fu saplant\u0131s\u0131d\u0131r. Bu b\u00e2t\u0131l ve bencil kuruntular\u0131n, bu bo\u015f gurur ve kibir sapk\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n ilk \u00f6rne\u011fi \u015eeytand\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

“Ve Biz b\u00fct\u00fcn meleklere: ‘(O halde \u015fimdi emrime itaaten ve h\u00fcrmeten) Adem’e secde edin! (O’nun \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc kabullenin!)’ demi\u015ftik. Onlar da hemen secde etmi\u015flerdi. Yaln\u0131z \u0130blis diretmi\u015f, kibirlenmi\u015f ve k\u00e2firlerden (inat\u00e7\u0131 ve ink\u00e2rc\u0131 nank\u00f6rlerden) olup (gitmi\u015fti).” <\/span><\/em><\/strong>(Bakara Suresi: 34)<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

“Andolsun, Biz sizi (hi\u00e7 yoktan) yarat\u0131p var ettik, sonra size suret (bi\u00e7im-\u015fekil) verdik, sonra meleklere: ‘Adem’e secde edin!’ dedik. Onlar da hemen secde ettiler; sadece \u0130blis (emrimizi tutmad\u0131) ve secde edenlerden olmad\u0131. (Kibirlendi ve k\u00fcfre kayd\u0131.)”<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

“(Allah ona) Dedi: ‘Sana emretti\u011fimde, seni secde etmekten al\u0131koyan neydi?’ (\u0130blis) Dedi ki: ‘Ben ondan hay\u0131rl\u0131y\u0131m. (\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc) Beni ate\u015ften yaratt\u0131n, onu ise \u00e7amurdan yaratt\u0131n’ (‘\u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck benim hakk\u0131md\u0131r’ demeye yeltendi). [Not: \u015eeytan bu k\u0131yas\u0131nda da yan\u0131l\u0131vermi\u015fti. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc toprak, her bak\u0131mdan ate\u015ften daha yararl\u0131 ve hay\u0131rl\u0131 bir nesneydi.]”<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

“(Allah:) ‘\u00d6yleyse oradan (cennetten defolup a\u015fa\u011f\u0131) in, orada b\u00fcy\u00fcklenmen senin (hakk\u0131n) olamaz. Hemen (huzurumdan ve nimet ortam\u0131mdan) \u00e7\u0131k. Ger\u00e7ekten sen, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck (basit ve de\u011fersiz) d\u00fc\u015fenlerdensin (art\u0131k zelil ve hakirsin)’ dedi.”<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

“O da: ‘(\u0130nsanlar\u0131n \u00f6ld\u00fckten sonra) Dirilecekleri g\u00fcne kadar beni g\u00f6zle(yip ertele)’ diye (m\u00fchlet istedi).”<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

“(Cenab-\u0131 Hakk bu iste\u011fini kabul etmi\u015f ve) ‘Haydi sen kendisine m\u00fchlet (ve f\u0131rsat) verilenlerdensin’ demi\u015fti.”<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

“(\u015eeytan) Dedi ki: ‘Madem \u00f6yle, (Hz. Adem’e secde etmek gibi nefsime a\u011f\u0131r gelen bir imtihana t\u00e2bi tutmakla) beni azd\u0131rmana kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k; ben de onlar\u0131 (Ademo\u011fullar\u0131n\u0131 sapt\u0131rmak i\u00e7in) Senin (\u0130slamiyet ve) istikamet yolunun \u00fczerinde oturup (tuzak kuraca\u011f\u0131m. Her d\u00f6nemdeki en hakl\u0131 ve hay\u0131rl\u0131 davan\u0131n ortas\u0131nda pusu kurup duraca\u011f\u0131m). <\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Sonra; \u00f6n taraflar\u0131ndan, arkalar\u0131ndan, sa\u011flar\u0131ndan ve sollar\u0131ndan muhakkak (kullar\u0131na) sokulup (sapt\u0131raca\u011f\u0131m). Ki onlar\u0131n \u00e7o\u011funu (art\u0131k dinin ve nimetlerin sayesinde eri\u015ftikleri lezzet ve faziletlere) \u015f\u00fckredici bulmayacaks\u0131n. (\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc onlara nank\u00f6rl\u00fck ve h\u0131yanet yapt\u0131raca\u011f\u0131m!?)”<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

“(Cenab-\u0131 Hakk da: ‘Haydi defol!) A\u015fa\u011f\u0131lanm\u0131\u015f ve kovulmu\u015f olarak \u00e7\u0131k oradan! Yemin olsun (insanlardan) onlardan kim sana uyarsa, sizin hepinizi cehenneme dolduraca\u011f\u0131m’ buyuruvermi\u015fti.”<\/span><\/em><\/strong> (A’raf Suresi: 11-18) ayetleri \u015eeytan\u0131n kibir ve Narsistlik damar\u0131yla nas\u0131l azg\u0131nla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlatmaktad\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Ba\u015fkanl\u0131k gururuyla ve Firavunluk damar\u0131yla \u015f\u0131mar\u0131p \u015fa\u015f\u0131ranlar da Narsizme kaymaktad\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

“Firavun ise: ‘Ey \u00f6nde gelenler, sizin i\u00e7in benden ba\u015fka ilah oldu\u011funu (benim m\u00fclk\u00fcmde, benim d\u0131\u015f\u0131mda bir kanun koyucu bulundu\u011funu) bilmiyorum (ve kabul etmiyorum). Ey Haman, (\u00f6zel f\u0131r\u0131nlarda) \u00e7amurun \u00fcst\u00fcnde bir ate\u015f yak da, bana (tu\u011fladan) y\u00fcksek\u00e7e bir kule in\u015fa et, belki Musa’n\u0131n \u0130lah\u0131na \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131m (da varsa O’na rastlar\u0131m, ama) ger\u00e7ekten ben onu yalanc\u0131lardan (biri) san\u0131yorum’ diyerek (halk\u0131n kafas\u0131n\u0131 kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmay\u0131 denemi\u015fti).”<\/span><\/em><\/strong> (Kasas Suresi: 38)<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

“Sonunda (yard\u0131mc\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7lerini) toplam\u0131\u015f (onlara \u015f\u00f6yle) seslenmi\u015fti;”<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

“(Firavun, kibir ve cehaletle:) ‘Sizin en y\u00fcce rabbiniz benim! (Hayat sisteminizi tanzim ve sizi diledi\u011fim gibi terbiye ediciyim)’ demi\u015fti.”<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

“Bu y\u00fczden Allah onu, ahiret ve d\u00fcnya azab\u0131yla yakalam\u0131\u015f (ve zul\u00fcm saltanat\u0131n\u0131 y\u0131km\u0131\u015f)t\u0131r.”<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

“Ger\u00e7ekten bunda ‘i\u00e7i titreyerek korkacak’ kimse i\u00e7in elbette bir ibret (dersi) vard\u0131r.”<\/span><\/em><\/strong> (Nazi’\u00e2t Suresi: 23-26) ayetleri Firavunlar\u0131n kap\u0131ld\u0131klar\u0131 gurur ve Narsistlik damar\u0131yla nas\u0131l sap\u0131tt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 hat\u0131rlatmaktad\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Evet, <\/span><\/strong>Narsizm:<\/span><\/strong> \u0130nsan\u0131n kendi kendisine hayran olmas\u0131, etraf\u0131nda h\u00fcrmet ve ra\u011fbet edenlerin artmas\u0131yla \u015f\u0131mar\u0131p “BEN”lik ve “B\u0130R\u0130NC\u0130”lik havas\u0131na kap\u0131lmas\u0131… Kendisinden etkin, yetkin ve zengin odaklara u\u015fakl\u0131k, kendisinden zay\u0131f ve s\u00fcr\u00fc mant\u0131kl\u0131 kalabal\u0131klara <\/span><\/strong>“Ba\u015fkanl\u0131k”<\/span><\/em><\/strong> rol\u00fcne yap\u0131\u015fmas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

“Firavun, kendi kavmi i\u00e7inde ba\u011f\u0131r\u0131p dedi ki: ‘Ey kavmim, M\u0131s\u0131r’\u0131n m\u00fclk\u00fc ve \u015fu alt\u0131mda akmakta olan nehirler (Nil’in kollar\u0131 ve kanallar\u0131) benim (h\u00fckm\u00fcmde) de\u011fil mi? H\u00e2l\u00e2 bunlar\u0131 g\u00f6rmeyecek (ve basiretli davran\u0131p bana t\u00e2bi olmayacak m\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z?)’”<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

“Yoksa ben, \u015fundan (Musa’dan) daha (\u00fcst\u00fcn ve) hay\u0131rl\u0131 de\u011fil miyim ki; o, a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 (s\u0131n\u0131ftan) bir zavall\u0131 ve neredeyse (s\u00f6z\u00fc) a\u00e7\u0131klamaktan (rahat konu\u015fmaktan aciz ve) yoksun olan (bir adam)d\u0131r.”<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

“Bu durumda (e\u011fer Musa do\u011fruysa), \u00fczerine (g\u00f6kten) alt\u0131ndan bilezikler at\u0131lmal\u0131, ya da yak\u0131n\u0131nda yer alm\u0131\u015f vaziyette onunla birlikte melekler gelip (dola\u015fmal\u0131) de\u011fil miydi? (\u015eimdi bu zavall\u0131n\u0131n pe\u015fine mi tak\u0131lal\u0131m?)”<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

“(Firavun) B\u00f6ylece kendi kavmini k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmseyip hafife ald\u0131 (onlar\u0131 basit ve haysiyetsiz ayaktak\u0131m\u0131 kimseler sayd\u0131). Buna ra\u011fmen, yine onlar kendisine (h\u00fcrmet ve) itaatini (art\u0131rd\u0131). Ger\u00e7ekten onlar fas\u0131k (duyars\u0131z, davas\u0131z ve baya\u011f\u0131 insanlardan olu\u015fan) bir kavim olmu\u015flard\u0131. (\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc Firavun kendilerini hakir g\u00f6rd\u00fck\u00e7e, ona daha \u00e7ok yana\u015fm\u0131\u015flard\u0131.)”<\/span><\/em><\/strong> (Zuhruf Suresi: 51-54)<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

“(Onlar\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmseyerek ve \u00f6nemsiz g\u00f6rerek) ‘\u0130nsanlara yana\u011f\u0131n\u0131 \u015fi\u015firip (y\u00fcz\u00fcn\u00fc \u00e7evirip b\u00fcy\u00fcklenme) ve b\u00f6b\u00fcrlenmi\u015f olarak yery\u00fcz\u00fcnde y\u00fcr\u00fcme. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc Allah, b\u00fcy\u00fckl\u00fck taslay\u0131p b\u00f6b\u00fcrleneni sevmez (ve onlar\u0131 al\u00e7alt\u0131r).’”<\/span><\/em><\/strong> (Lokman Suresi: 18) ayetleri bu benlik saplant\u0131s\u0131ndan insanlar\u0131 uyarmaktad\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Narsistik ki\u015filik bozukluklar\u0131na, toplumun b\u00fct\u00fcn tabakalar\u0131nda ve her ya\u015ftan insanda rastlanmaktad\u0131r. Toplum i\u00e7erisinde g\u00f6r\u00fclme oranlar\u0131 ise %6,2 kadard\u0131r. Yap\u0131lan ara\u015ft\u0131rmalarda, narsistik ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011funun kad\u0131nlara g\u00f6re erkeklerde daha yayg\u0131n g\u00f6r\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fc saptanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Narsizmin \u00e7ocukluk \u00e7a\u011f\u0131 ile nas\u0131l bir ili\u015fkisi vard\u0131r?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00c7ocuklar, hayatla ilgili ilk bilgileri aile \u00e7evresinden almaktad\u0131r. \u00c7ocuk, aile i\u00e7erisinde ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ortam\u0131 g\u00f6zlemlemeye ba\u015flar ve bunun bir par\u00e7as\u0131 olabilmek i\u00e7in \u00e7abalar. Anne-baba ve a\u011fabeylerde g\u00f6zlemlenen m\u00fckemmellik kavramlar\u0131, \u00e7ocuklarda narsistik ki\u015filik yap\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n temelini olu\u015fturmaktad\u0131r. \u00c7ocuk, ileriki ya\u015fam\u0131nda girdi\u011fi ortamlara s\u00fcrekli hata yapmamak \u00fczere kendini s\u0131n\u0131rlay\u0131p kodlamaktad\u0131r. Bu durum, \u00e7ocu\u011fun ileti\u015fim kurma sorunlar\u0131na da yol a\u00e7maktad\u0131r. Ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z olma korkusu da bu s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131y\u0131 ya\u015fayan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n ki\u015filik yap\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 bozmaktad\u0131r. Hayat\u0131n\u0131 kusursuz normlar \u00fczerine kurmak isteyen ama a\u015fa\u011f\u0131l\u0131k psikolojisini yenemeyen \u00e7ocuklar, giderek mutluluk ve huzur kavramlar\u0131ndan uzakla\u015fmaktad\u0131r. \u00d6zellikle anne ve babalar\u0131n, \u00e7ocu\u011fu s\u00fcrekli azarlay\u0131p su\u00e7lamalar\u0131 ve bask\u0131yla kontrol alt\u0131na almaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131, \u00e7ocu\u011fun ruh yap\u0131s\u0131na ve ki\u015fisel s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131na sayg\u0131l\u0131 davranmamalar\u0131, bu bozuklu\u011fun olu\u015fmas\u0131na neden olmaktad\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Arkada\u015f ve te\u015fkilat ortam\u0131n\u0131n Narsizme katk\u0131lar\u0131!<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Kibirlilik ve bencillik saplant\u0131l\u0131 Narsist ki\u015filer, \u00f6zellikle arkada\u015flar\u0131 taraf\u0131ndan ba\u015fta m\u00fckemmel san\u0131l\u0131rlar. Sevilen, \u00f6v\u00fclen ve g\u00fcvenilen bir ki\u015filik yap\u0131lar\u0131 vard\u0131r. Fakat bunlar, sevgiyi genellikle manip\u00fclatif davran\u0131\u015flar ile almaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. Ba\u015far\u0131da \u00fcst\u00fcn bir h\u0131rs ve ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k an\u0131nda ise su\u00e7lama davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131yla \u00f6n plana \u00e7\u0131karlar. Bu sorunu ya\u015fayan ki\u015filer genellikle aile ve evlilik konusunda, hatta i\u015f ve ekip ortam\u0131nda kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaki insanlara de\u011fersizlik, yetersizlik gibi kavramlar\u0131 y\u00fckleyip onlar\u0131 yaln\u0131zla\u015ft\u0131rma politikas\u0131yla \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck sa\u011flamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. Genellikle ili\u015fkilerini emir ve komuta sistemine g\u00f6re y\u00fcr\u00fctmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. Bunun d\u0131\u015f\u0131na \u00e7\u0131k\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda \u00f6fkelenip k\u0131zarlar veya k\u00fcsmek ve al\u00e2kay\u0131 kesmek gibi pasif-agresif davran\u0131\u015flara s\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131rlar. Kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaki ki\u015filerin hayatlar\u0131n\u0131 ve onurlar\u0131n\u0131 hi\u00e7 hesaba katmazlar. Hatta ilgi g\u00f6sterseler bile, genellikle bunu rutinsel gereklilik olarak g\u00f6rd\u00fckleri i\u00e7in yaparlar. Toplamda b\u00fct\u00fcn ili\u015fkisel boyutlar de\u011ferlendirildi\u011finde bu tip insanlar benmerkezci yap\u0131dad\u0131rlar. Bu y\u00fczden genellikle ila\u00e7la tedavi edilmesi m\u00fcmk\u00fcn g\u00f6z\u00fckmeyen bir psikolojik hastal\u0131kt\u0131r. Narsistik ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011fu ya\u015fayan bireyler, tedaviye ve tavsiyelere en kapal\u0131 insanlard\u0131r. Bu nedenle tedavi; uzun s\u00fcreli psikoterapi y\u00f6ntemiyle, uzman klinik psikologlar ya da \u00e7ok sab\u0131rl\u0131 ve istikrarl\u0131 ir\u015fat\u00e7\u0131lar taraf\u0131ndan ele al\u0131nmal\u0131d\u0131r. Terapi y\u00f6ntemlerinde ise s\u0131kl\u0131kla bili\u015fsel davran\u0131\u015f\u00e7\u0131 terapi kullan\u0131l\u0131r. Narsizm, terapistlerin en \u00e7ok zorland\u0131\u011f\u0131 hastal\u0131k grubu say\u0131l\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Narsistik ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011funun belirtileri \u015funlard\u0131r:<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Narsistik ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011fu olanlar, kibirli ve benmerkezci kimseler olarak kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7\u0131kmaktad\u0131r. Bunlardaki baz\u0131 belirtiler \u015funlard\u0131r:<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

• Bu tipler, kendilerini b\u00fct\u00fcn ele\u015ftirilerin \u00fcst\u00fcnde g\u00f6rmeye ba\u015flam\u0131\u015flard\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

• \u00c7evrelerini manip\u00fcle edici davran\u0131\u015flar sergilemeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaktad\u0131rlar.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

• Herkesi kendi \u00e7\u0131karlar\u0131 ve kazan\u0131mlar\u0131 i\u00e7in kullan\u0131rlar.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

• Kendisiyle ayn\u0131 stat\u00fcye sahip insanlarla arkada\u015fl\u0131k kurmak havas\u0131ndad\u0131rlar. Fakat bu ger\u00e7ekle\u015fti\u011finde bile \u00f6nde olma d\u00fcrt\u00fcs\u00fc ile \u00e7evresiyle yar\u0131\u015f halinde olurlar.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

• Kendi yetenek ve ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 abart\u0131p, \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck psikolojisine kap\u0131l\u0131rlar.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

• S\u00fcrekli hakl\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kaca\u011f\u0131 ortamlar\u0131 yarat\u0131p onaylanmak arzusundad\u0131rlar.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

• Bu tipler, devaml\u0131 \u00f6vg\u00fc bekler ve bunun i\u00e7in bask\u0131 ortam\u0131 kurarlar.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

• Ba\u015fka insanlar\u0131 kendinden daha \u00e7aps\u0131z, daha ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z ve daha az anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131 bulurlar.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

• \u0130nsanlar\u0131n, kendine hizmet etme durumunda olduklar\u0131n\u0131 varsayarlar.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

• Kendisini toplumun par\u00e7as\u0131 olarak g\u00f6rse de bu toplumun i\u00e7erisinde \u00f6zel muameleyi hak etti\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcp, o toplumun en \u00fcst\u00fcndeki ki\u015fi oldu\u011fu sapk\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131na kap\u0131l\u0131rlar.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

• Ba\u015fkalar\u0131 \u00fczerinden var olurlar.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

• Genellikle bu bozuklu\u011fun temelinde, \u00e7ocuklukta ve ilk gen\u00e7lik y\u0131llar\u0131nda ya\u015fan\u0131lan de\u011fersizlik ve sevgisizlik gibi kavramlar yatmaktad\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

• Ne kadar d\u0131\u015far\u0131ya \u00f6z g\u00fcven sahibi g\u00f6z\u00fckseler de i\u00e7lerindeki kendine g\u00fcven kavram\u0131 k\u0131r\u0131lgand\u0131r ve bunu g\u00f6stermek ve ger\u00e7ek ayarlar\u0131 bak\u0131m\u0131ndan toplumca sezilmek, en b\u00fcy\u00fck korkular\u0131d\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Narsistik ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011fu olan kimseler nas\u0131l anla\u015f\u0131l\u0131r?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Narsistik ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011fu olanlar, sorunlu davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirme konusunda olduk\u00e7a kat\u0131d\u0131rlar. Narsist ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011fu olanlar, su\u00e7u ba\u015fkalar\u0131nda bulma konusunda ustala\u015fm\u0131\u015flard\u0131r. En k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ele\u015ftirileri bile anla\u015fmazl\u0131\u011fa, \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmaya ve sald\u0131rgan davran\u0131\u015fa d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fcp h\u0131r\u00e7\u0131nla\u015f\u0131rlar.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Evet, Narsizm; bir ahl\u00e2k ve vicdan yozla\u015fmas\u0131 ve derin bir ki\u015filik bozulmas\u0131d\u0131r!<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Narsizm kelimesinin k\u00f6keni Yunan mitolojisindeki <\/span><\/strong>‘Narkissos’<\/span><\/em><\/strong> adl\u0131 bir avc\u0131dan g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcze gelip yerle\u015fmi\u015f bir kavramd\u0131r. Burada ad\u0131 ge\u00e7en <\/span><\/strong>Narkissos<\/span><\/strong>, su i\u00e7mek i\u00e7in indi\u011fi durgun nehirde kendi yans\u0131mas\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcp sudaki g\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcs\u00fcne \u00e2\u015f\u0131k olmaktad\u0131r. Yemeden, i\u00e7meden kesilen avc\u0131, g\u00fcnlerini nehrin ba\u015f\u0131nda kendi g\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcs\u00fcne bakarak ge\u00e7irmeye ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Efsaneye g\u00f6re bu \u015fekilde kendini t\u00fcketip \u00f6l\u00fcr ve bedeni, nehirdeki bir nergis \u00e7i\u00e7e\u011fine d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Narsizm, toplumdaki baz\u0131 bireylerin suni bir \u00f6z g\u00fcven ile kendilerini s\u00fcrekli di\u011fer insanlardan \u00fcst\u00fcn g\u00f6rmesiyle ortaya \u00e7\u0131kan bir ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011fu olmaktad\u0131r. Bu insanlar, \u00e7evrelerinden de ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde hissettikleri bu duygular\u0131n \u00e7o\u011falt\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131 ummaktad\u0131r. \u00c7o\u011funlukla benmerkezci ki\u015filik \u00f6zellikleri ile beraber empati yoksunlu\u011fu, ki\u015fili\u011fi fazlas\u0131yla b\u00fcy\u00fctme (abartma), ba\u015far\u0131ya ve g\u00fcce ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 davran\u0131\u015flarla kendilerini \u00f6ne \u00e7\u0131karmaktad\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Narsistik ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011fu olan birine nas\u0131l davran\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

• B\u00f6ylesi Narsist bir insana kar\u015f\u0131 davran\u0131\u015f s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131 net, belirgin ve keskin olmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

• Bunlar\u0131n duygusal ve psikolojik anlamda b\u00fct\u00fcn manip\u00fclatif davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 s\u0131n\u0131rland\u0131r\u0131lmal\u0131 ve a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a uyar\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

• “Onu kaybetme korkusu ile yakla\u015f\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131”<\/em> izleniminden sak\u0131nmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

• E\u011fer ki\u015fiyi kaybetme korkunuz varsa bunun alt\u0131nda yatan neden de vurgulanmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

• Narsist bir insan\u0131n kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda de\u011fersizlik, yetersizlik ve beceriksizlik gibi duygulara kap\u0131lmamal\u0131d\u0131r. Narsist ki\u015fili\u011fin egosunu besleyici tav\u0131rlardan uzak durulmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

• Onu k\u0131sa s\u00fcrede ve bask\u0131 ile de\u011fi\u015ftirme ve d\u00fczeltme \u00e7abas\u0131na girilmesi yanl\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

• Narsist bir insana kar\u015f\u0131 olumlu ya da olumsuz hissedilen duygular net bir \u015fekilde ve y\u00fcz\u00fcne kar\u015f\u0131 anlat\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc Narsist-Kibirli insanlara g\u00f6re pi\u015fmanl\u0131k, bir zay\u0131fl\u0131k g\u00f6stergesi say\u0131l\u0131r. Oysa yanl\u0131\u015f ve haks\u0131z davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131ndan pi\u015fmanl\u0131k duymak insani bir erdem ve olgunluk ahl\u00e2k\u0131d\u0131r. Ancak nadiren de olsa hayatlar\u0131n\u0131n baz\u0131 d\u00f6nemlerinde pi\u015fmanl\u0131k ya\u015fayanlar \u00e7\u0131kmaktad\u0131r. Pi\u015fmanl\u0131k ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 fark edildi\u011finde ise genelde kendilerini d\u0131\u015fa kapatt\u0131klar\u0131 saptanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Narsistik ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011fu olanlar, genellikle \u00e7ocukluk ve ilk gen\u00e7lik d\u00f6nemlerinde ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 sevgisizlik ve de\u011fersizlik duygular\u0131n\u0131 bar\u0131nd\u0131rmaktad\u0131r ve her ne kadar a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 \u00f6z g\u00fcvenli g\u00f6r\u00fcnse de, bu a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 \u00f6z g\u00fcvenin temelinde g\u00fcvensizlik duygusu vard\u0131r. Bunlar, kendilerine y\u00f6nelik k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ve basit olaylara hemen \u00fcz\u00fcl\u00fcr, derinlerde ac\u0131 \u00e7ekmek istemese bile hemen savunmaya ge\u00e7ip h\u0131r\u00e7\u0131nla\u015f\u0131r ve sald\u0131rganla\u015f\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Narsistik ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011fu ta\u015f\u0131yanlar\u0131n, ili\u015fki i\u00e7inde olduklar\u0131 insanlara kar\u015f\u0131 yakla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131 da tutars\u0131z ve istikrars\u0131zd\u0131r. Bu tip insanlar baz\u0131 d\u00f6nemlerde sevgisini abart\u0131rken, bazen de sevdi\u011fini s\u00f6yledi\u011fi insan\u0131 yerin dibine bat\u0131rmaktad\u0131r. \u00d6zellikle ili\u015fkinin ba\u015f\u0131nda sevgi doluyken, zamanla ili\u015fkinin seyrini de\u011fi\u015ftirerek ac\u0131mas\u0131z ve kibirli bir insan olup \u00e7\u0131kmaktad\u0131r. Narsist insanlar, b\u00fct\u00fcn ili\u015fkilerinde kontrol\u00fcn kendi elinde olmas\u0131na \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaktad\u0131r. \u0130li\u015fkinin devam\u0131 konusunda konu\u015farak ikna edemeyece\u011fini anlay\u0131nca, kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndakinin zaaflar\u0131n\u0131 ortaya \u00e7\u0131kararak ki\u015finin kendisini k\u00f6t\u00fc hissetmesini sa\u011flamaya yo\u011funla\u015f\u0131r. Ge\u00e7mi\u015fe d\u00f6n\u00fck g\u00fczel anlar\u0131 anlatman\u0131n i\u015fe yaramad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ise sald\u0131r\u0131ya ge\u00e7ip hakarete ba\u015flamaktad\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Narsizmin de t\u00fcrleri vard\u0131r!<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Narsizmin farkl\u0131 t\u00fcrleri bulunmaktad\u0131r ve her biri kendi i\u00e7erisinde ortak ve farkl\u0131 \u00f6zellikler ta\u015f\u0131maktad\u0131r. <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 Narsizm:<\/span><\/strong> Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 Narsizm, normal bir durum say\u0131l\u0131r ve hemen her insanda az-\u00e7ok bulunmaktad\u0131r. Ger\u00e7eklerle uyumlu oldu\u011fu s\u00fcrece bir sorun olu\u015fturmayacakt\u0131r. \u00d6te yandan Narsizm ki\u015finin kendi de\u011ferinin fark\u0131nda olmas\u0131, nelere hakk\u0131n\u0131n oldu\u011funu anlamas\u0131 g\u00f6revini \u00fcstlenen bir d\u00fcrt\u00fc olarak vard\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

B\u00fcy\u00fcklenmeci Narsizm:<\/span><\/strong> Bu yap\u0131daki ki\u015filer kendi yetenek ve ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131, hakl\u0131l\u0131k ve kazan\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6ne \u00e7\u0131karmaktad\u0131r. Bu durum bir tak\u0131nt\u0131 halini almaktad\u0131r. Etraf\u0131ndakileri nas\u0131l etkilediklerini umursamadan b\u00fcy\u00fcklenmeci tav\u0131rlar\u0131 tak\u0131n\u0131lmaktad\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Savunmas\u0131z ya da K\u0131r\u0131lgan Narsizm:<\/span><\/strong> B\u00fcy\u00fcklenmeci Narsizmin z\u0131dd\u0131d\u0131r. Bu ki\u015filer genellikle utanga\u00e7 ve a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 duygusal insanlard\u0131r. Kendilerinin, \u015fefkatli, m\u00fctevaz\u0131 ya da fedak\u00e2r olduklar\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnerek ‘farkl\u0131l\u0131k’ ve ‘ayr\u0131cal\u0131k’ havas\u0131na kap\u0131l\u0131rlar. Di\u011fer yap\u0131sal nitelikleri ise k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n ele\u015ftirilerine kar\u015f\u0131 fazla tepkili olmalar\u0131d\u0131r. Kendilerine y\u00f6nelik ele\u015ftirilere kar\u015f\u0131 a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 bir savunma ve tepki koyulmaktad\u0131r. Reddedilme ve utan\u00e7 kayg\u0131s\u0131yla pasif \u00f6fkeye kap\u0131l\u0131rlar. <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Cinsel Narsizm:<\/span><\/strong> Cinsel Narsizm tak\u0131nt\u0131s\u0131 olanlar, g\u00fczelliklerine ve bedeni \u00f6zelliklerine a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 d\u00fc\u015fk\u00fcn insanlard\u0131r. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n, onlar\u0131n farkl\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6vmelerine ihtiya\u00e7 duyar, kendilerine hayranl\u0131k duyulmas\u0131n\u0131 arzularlar. \u00c7evresindekileri manip\u00fcle edebilmek i\u00e7in cinselli\u011fi kullan\u0131rlar. <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Somatik Narsizm:<\/span><\/strong> Somatik narsistler, \u00e7evrelerinde nas\u0131l g\u00f6r\u00fcnd\u00fcklerini tak\u0131nt\u0131 seviyesinde \u00f6nemli saymaktad\u0131r. Bu ki\u015filer i\u00e7in nas\u0131l giyindikleri ve bedensel g\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcleri, ka\u00e7 kilo geldikleri, sa\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131n nas\u0131l g\u00f6r\u00fcnd\u00fckleri a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 derecede \u00f6nemli bir tak\u0131nt\u0131d\u0131r. Kendilerini ger\u00e7ek hallerinden daha g\u00fczel, daha g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc g\u00f6rmeye yatk\u0131nd\u0131rlar. Bu yap\u0131lar\u0131 nedeniyle ba\u015fka insanlar\u0131 d\u0131\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015flerine bakarak yarg\u0131larlar. <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Serebral Narsizm:<\/span><\/strong> Somatik Narsizmin z\u0131dd\u0131 olarak d\u0131\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u00fc de\u011fil, ki\u015filerin entelekt\u00fcel \u00f6zelliklerini \u00f6ne \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131rlar. Tabii \u00f6ncelikle kendilerini herkesten daha entelekt\u00fcel ve zeki san\u0131rlar. Ba\u015fka insanlar\u0131 ise bu alanlarda yetersiz bulurlar ve bu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerini kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndakilere hissettirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Manevi Narsizm:<\/span><\/strong> Bu ki\u015filer kendi meslek, me\u015frep ve tarikat\u0131n\u0131, ilmini ve ibadetini, kavmini, s\u00fclalesini ve partisini herkesten daha \u00fcst\u00fcn ve de\u011ferli bulurlar. Bu yanlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6n plana \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131r, kar\u015f\u0131lar\u0131ndaki insanlara \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck taslayarak onlar\u0131 de\u011fersizle\u015ftirmeye \u00e7abalarlar. <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Siyasi Narsizm:<\/span><\/strong> K\u00f6t\u00fcc\u00fcl Narsizm t\u00fcrleri aras\u0131ndaki en tehlikeli olan\u0131d\u0131r. Narsizmin en zarar verici t\u00fcr\u00fc say\u0131l\u0131r. K\u00f6t\u00fc niyetli Narsizmde anti sosyal ki\u015filik \u00f6zellikleri yan\u0131nda buna sadizm de eklenince tam bir hastal\u0131k halini almaktad\u0131r. Bu t\u00fcr gafil ve hain ki\u015filer; d\u0131\u015f g\u00fc\u00e7lerle i\u015f birli\u011fi yaparak ve \u00e7e\u015fitli entrikalar kurarak ele ge\u00e7irdikleri S\u0130YAS\u0130 MAKAMLARIN sa\u011flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 dokunulmazl\u0131k ve imk\u00e2nlarla azg\u0131nla\u015f\u0131p Firavunla\u015f\u0131rlar. \u015eahsi ihtiras ve iktidarlar\u0131 u\u011fruna, \u00fclke \u00e7\u0131karlar\u0131n\u0131 feda etmekten sak\u0131nmazlar. Ancak \u00f6n\u00fcnde sonunda m\u00fcstahak olduklar\u0131 rezil ak\u0131betten de kurtulamazlar!..<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Bu arada, baz\u0131 kavramlar birbiriyle kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lmamal\u0131d\u0131r!<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Kendisini; “Eri\u015filmez, kar\u015f\u0131 gelinmez, vazge\u00e7ilmez!”<\/em> sanan ve b\u00f6yle sunan Narsist-egoist ki\u015filik bozukluklar\u0131yla; <\/span><\/strong>kutlu g\u00f6rev sorumlulu\u011fu, Hak dava onuru ve te\u015fkilat-ekip disiplini huzuru<\/span><\/strong> i\u00e7in; net, sert, kesin ve keskin tav\u0131r tak\u0131nmak birbirinden \u00e7ok farkl\u0131 ve ayk\u0131r\u0131 davran\u0131\u015flard\u0131r. Bunlar\u0131 asla kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmamak ve suizanlara kap\u0131lmamak laz\u0131md\u0131r. Nas\u0131l ki; <\/span><\/strong>Takvac\u0131l\u0131kla Riyak\u00e2rl\u0131k, Kahramanl\u0131kla M\u00fcnaf\u0131kl\u0131k, Hay\u0131rhahl\u0131kla Savurganl\u0131k, Vakarl\u0131l\u0131kla Barbarl\u0131k ve Bask\u0131c\u0131l\u0131k,<\/span><\/em><\/strong> ayn\u0131 de\u011fil \u00e7ok farkl\u0131 ve ayk\u0131r\u0131 konumlard\u0131r. Aralar\u0131nda ince bir zar oldu\u011fu san\u0131lsa da asl\u0131nda \u00e7ok uzak kavramlard\u0131r. Bunlar ancak <\/span><\/strong>“niyetlerle”<\/span><\/em><\/strong> mahiyetleri ba\u015fkala\u015fan ve ehlince anla\u015f\u0131lan durumlard\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

“Tekebb\u00fcr” de\u011fil “Te\u015fekk\u00fcr” makam\u0131nda kalmal\u0131d\u0131r!<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Mekke Fethi’nden sonra giri\u015filen TA\u0130F civar\u0131ndaki <\/span><\/strong>Huneyn Gazvesi’nde<\/span><\/em><\/strong>, M\u00fcsl\u00fcmanlar daha ilk saatlerde d\u00fc\u015fman\u0131 hezimete u\u011fratm\u0131\u015f ve bir k\u0131sm\u0131 ganimet toplamakla me\u015fgul olmu\u015flard\u0131. Bu f\u0131rsat\u0131 de\u011ferlendiren Sakif ve Havazin kabilesi ok\u00e7ular\u0131, M\u00fcsl\u00fcmanlara sald\u0131rm\u0131\u015f, onlar\u0131 ok ya\u011fmuruna tutmu\u015flard\u0131. Neye u\u011frad\u0131klar\u0131na \u015fa\u015f\u0131ran M\u00fcsl\u00fcmanlar\u0131n \u00e7o\u011fu sa\u011fa-sola ka\u00e7\u0131\u015fmaya ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u0130\u015fte b\u00f6yle zor bir esnada Hz. Peygamber (SAV) \u015fu ger\u00e7e\u011fi hayk\u0131rm\u0131\u015ft\u0131: “Ben Peygamberim, bunda yalan (ve riya) yok. Ben, Abd\u00fclmuttalib’in torunuyum. (Bunda gurur yok!..)”<\/em> (Buh\u00e2r\u00ee, Cih\u00e2d 52; M\u00fcslim, Cih\u00e2d, 78)<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00d6yle anla\u015f\u0131l\u0131yor ki; Hz. Peygamber (SAV) Efendimiz, birer be\u015fer olarak d\u00fc\u015fman taraf\u0131ndan ani bask\u0131nlara u\u011fray\u0131p sa\u011fa-sola ka\u00e7\u0131\u015fan sahabelerini cesaretlendirmek i\u00e7in onlara imanlar\u0131n\u0131 hat\u0131rlatm\u0131\u015f, cihad \u015fuuruyla yeniden cesaretlerini toplamalar\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Ayr\u0131ca bu s\u00f6zleriyle Sakif ve Havazin ordular\u0131n\u0131n moralini bozmay\u0131 da ama\u00e7lam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Nitekim \u0130slam ordusu, Resul\u00fcllah’\u0131n; hakikat oldu\u011fu kadar duygusal olan bu hayk\u0131r\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 duyduktan sonra tekrar toplanmaya ba\u015flam\u0131\u015f ve \u00f6\u011fleden sonra yeniden h\u00fccuma ge\u00e7ip d\u00fc\u015fman kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda kesin zafer kazanm\u0131\u015flard\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Allah’\u0131n El\u00e7isinin -h\u00e2\u015f\u00e2- d\u00fc\u015fmandan ka\u00e7mas\u0131 s\u00f6z konusu olamazd\u0131. O’nun dedesi Abd\u00fclmuttalib de Ebrehe ve ordusu kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda ka\u00e7mam\u0131\u015f ve cidd\u00ee bir metanetle zalimlere kar\u015f\u0131 tav\u0131r tak\u0131nm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Ayr\u0131ca O, bu s\u00f6z\u00fcyle, Hz. Peygamberimiz (SAV); dedesi Abd\u00fclmuttalib, Allah’\u0131n izniyle sa\u011f-salim kurtuldu\u011fu gibi Ben de ayn\u0131 Allah’\u0131n se\u00e7kin kuluyum ve o z\u00e2t\u0131n torunuyum<\/em>, s\u00f6zleriyle bu badirenin atlat\u0131laca\u011f\u0131na i\u015faret buyurarak, Ashab\u0131n\u0131n tekrar toparlan\u0131p kendilerine gelmelerini sa\u011flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Hz. Peygamber Efendimiz (SAV)’de \u00f6yle bir teslimiyet, metanet ve cesaret vard\u0131 ki; yan\u0131ndakiler, O’nun manyetik alan\u0131na s\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131nca \u00e2deta b\u00fcy\u00fclenmi\u015f gibi heyecan kazan\u0131rlard\u0131. Evet, onlar: “En emniyetli yer O’nun arkas\u0131d\u0131r”<\/em> deyip Efendimizin yan\u0131nda toparlan\u0131rlard\u0131; <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc: <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

“Ey Resul\u00fcm! Rabbinden Sana indirileni (aynen ve eksiksiz olarak) tebli\u011f et. E\u011fer bunu yapmazsan, O’nun (Allah’\u0131n) el\u00e7ili\u011fini (risalet vazifeni ve tebli\u011f mesuliyetini) aksatm\u0131\u015f (g\u00f6revini yapmam\u0131\u015f) olursun. (Bu hususta hi\u00e7 kimseden korkma, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc) Allah Seni insanlar(\u0131n zarar\u0131n)dan koruyacakt\u0131r. \u015e\u00fcphesiz, Allah, (bile bile) k\u00e2fir olan bir toplulu\u011fu hidayete erdirmeyecektir.”<\/span><\/em><\/strong> (Maide Suresi: 67) ferman\u0131yla Allah O’nu hep korumaktayd\u0131.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Nitekim Peygamberimiz (SAV)’in damad\u0131 Hz. Ali gibi bir kahraman bile \u015fu itirafta bulunmu\u015flard\u0131:<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

“Biz sava\u015fta s\u0131k\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z zaman cesaret almak i\u00e7in Resul-i Ekrem’in arkas\u0131nda toplan\u0131rd\u0131k.”<\/span><\/em><\/strong> (M\u00fcsned 1\/156)<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Huneyn g\u00fcn\u00fc koca \u0130slam ordusunun da\u011f\u0131l\u0131p ka\u00e7\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir s\u0131rada bile, Hz. Peygamber (SAV)’in yerini b\u0131rakmamas\u0131, tek ba\u015f\u0131na d\u00fc\u015fmanlara sald\u0131rmas\u0131 ve Allah’\u0131n Hak El\u00e7isi oldu\u011funu hayk\u0131rmas\u0131, k\u0131yamete kadar gelen insanlar i\u00e7in de bir peygamberlik delili say\u0131lmaktad\u0131r. Zira bu insan\u00fcst\u00fc metanet, cesaret, g\u00fcven ve emniyet O’nun, k\u00e2inat\u0131n Sultan\u0131 Allah’a olan iman\u0131n\u0131, iman\u0131ndaki itminan\u0131n\u0131 ve itminan\u0131ndaki tevekk\u00fcl ve teslimiyet rahatl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ortaya koymaktad\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Evet, Hazreti Peygamber Efendimiz, \u00f6v\u00fcnmek ve kibirlenmek i\u00e7in de\u011fil, Rabbine te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmek ve teslimiyetini g\u00f6stermek i\u00e7in Peygamberlik makam\u0131n\u0131 ve dedesi Abd\u00fclmuttalib’in kahramanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hat\u0131rlatm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u015f\u00fckranl\u0131k ve minnettarl\u0131kla, riyak\u00e2rl\u0131k ve \u015farlatanl\u0131k \u00e7ok farkl\u0131 ve ayk\u0131r\u0131 tav\u0131rlard\u0131r. <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Zaten Duh\u00e2 Suresi son ayetinde: “Ve (Sana l\u00fctfetti\u011fi b\u00fct\u00fcn bu \u00fcst\u00fcn fazilet ve meziyetlerden dolay\u0131, \u00f6v\u00fcnmek ve b\u00f6b\u00fcrlenmek i\u00e7in de\u011fil, ama sevinmek ve \u015f\u00fckretmek niyetiyle) Rabbinin nimetini (minnet ve memnuniyetle) hat\u0131rlat ve anlat (ki Makam-\u0131 Mahmud’a ula\u015fas\u0131n.)”<\/em> (Duh\u00e2 Suresi: 11) ayetiyle, Hz. Peygamber Efendimiz (SAV): Tahdis-i nimetle, yani “Allah’\u0131n nimet ve faziletlerini, \u015f\u00fck\u00fcr makam\u0131nda hat\u0131rlatma” ile emrolunmu\u015flard\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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