{"id":134,"date":"2006-11-22T14:01:08","date_gmt":"2006-11-22T14:01:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.millicozum.com\/mc\/2006\/11\/22\/tasavvufterbe-usuller\/"},"modified":"2006-11-22T14:01:08","modified_gmt":"2006-11-22T14:01:08","slug":"tasavvufi-terbiye-usulleri","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.millicozum.com\/mc\/2006\/temmuz-2006\/tasavvufi-terbiye-usulleri\/","title":{"rendered":"TASAVVUF\u0130 TERB\u0130YE USULLER\u0130"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\u00a0  <\/p>\n<p> Hac\u0131 Haydar Baba Hz.leri \u00f6zellikle \u015fu be\u015f y\u00f6n\u00fcyle Hz. Peygamber Efendimize \u00e7ok benzemekteydi.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>1-<\/strong> O da, Aleyhisselat\u00fc vesselam Efendimiz gibi, \u00e7ok k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015fta iken, hem \u00f6ks\u00fcz hem yetim kalm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Yani, bir nevi Cenab\u0131 Hak O&#39;nu da, bizzat kendi himayesine ve terbiyesine alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. O&#39;nun Mevlas\u0131ndan ba\u015fka meyil ve muhabbet edece\u011fi kimsesi kalmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>2-<\/strong> Haydar Baba&#39;n\u0131n \u00e7ocuklu\u011fu ve gen\u00e7lik y\u0131llar\u0131 da, Hz. Peygamber Efendimize benzer bir istikamet ve nezahetle ya\u015fanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131.. \u00c7ocuklu\u011fundan itibaren, s\u00fcrekli alimlerin, velilerin sohbetlerine kat\u0131lm\u0131\u015f, hizmet1erine katlanm\u0131\u015f; ihlas suresinin faziletini \u00f6\u011frenince, hen\u00fcz on \u00fc\u00e7-on d\u00f6rt ya\u015flar\u0131nda, virt edip okudu\u011fu ihlas say\u0131s\u0131n\u0131, her g\u00fcn bazen on bine \u00e7\u0131karm\u0131\u015ft\u0131.  <\/p>\n<p>  \u00a0  <\/p>\n<p> Bilmeden \u00dcveysi tarikat\u0131n\u0131n virdi olan ihlas suresine b\u00f6ylesine sar\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in, Veysel Karani Hz.lerinin manevi himmet ve ruhaniyetiyle kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>3-<\/strong> Hz. Peygamber Efendimiz, \u00f6zellikle N\u00fcb\u00fcvvetin yakla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 senelerde s\u00fcrekli inzivay\u0131, yaln\u0131z kalmay\u0131, Hira ma\u011faras\u0131nda Allah&#39;\u0131 tefekk\u00fcr ve tezekk\u00fcrle me\u015fgul olmay\u0131 tercih buyurup, ruhi terbiye ve terakkiye haz\u0131rland\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi; Haydar Baba da hen\u00fcz on yedi ya\u015f\u0131nda iken Savuna&#39;l\u0131 Muhammed Baba&#39;dan ders al\u0131p, nefis tezkiyesine ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Iss\u0131z ma\u011faralarda ve yaln\u0131z kuytu odalarda zikir ve riyazetle Rabbinin r\u0131zas\u0131n\u0131 ve ridvan\u0131n\u0131 aramaktayd\u0131.  <\/p>\n<p> Hatta askerlik d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fc, \u015feyhi vefat etmeden \u00f6nce, kendisine icazet ve hilafet verdi\u011fi halde, Haydar Baba, haz\u0131r \u015feyhli\u011fi ve tekkeyi b\u0131rak\u0131p, Hac\u0131 Cuma Hoca Efendiye gidip talebe ve m\u00fcrit olarak, O&#39;nun izni ve g\u00f6zetiminde 70 g\u00fcn s\u00fcrecek \u00e7ok zorlu bir \u00e7ileye ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131.  <\/p>\n<p> Hayat\u0131 boyunca d\u00f6rt sefer k\u0131rkar g\u00fcn \u00e7ileye ve tam y\u00fcz yirmi sefer onar g\u00fcn itik\u00e2f riyazetine oturdu\u011fu halde;  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>&quot;Ve yakin sana gelinceye kadar Rabbine ibadet et&quot;<a name=\"_ftnref1\" href=\"#_ftn1\" title=\"_ftnref1\"><strong>[1]<\/strong><\/a><\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>&quot;Bo\u015f kald\u0131\u011f\u0131n zaman, durmaks\u0131z\u0131n hemen (Dua ve ibadetle) yorulmaya devam et&quot;<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Ve sadece Rabbine ra\u011fbet et&quot;<a name=\"_ftnref2\" href=\"#_ftn2\" title=\"_ftnref2\"><strong>[2]<\/strong><\/a><\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>&quot;. ..Geceleyin kalk..Rabbinin ismini zikret ve nefsini her \u015feyden \u00e7ekerek yaln\u0131zca Ona y\u00f6nel&quot;<a name=\"_ftnref3\" href=\"#_ftn3\" title=\"_ftnref3\"><strong>[3]<\/strong><\/a><\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> Emirleri gere\u011fi, a\u015f\u0131k ve sad\u0131k bir kul olman\u0131n g\u00f6stergesi olarak, her g\u00fcn; tehecc\u00fct, i\u015frak, duha ve evvabin namazlar\u0131n\u0131, hem de 12 \u015fer rekat olarak k\u0131lm\u0131\u015f ve en a\u011f\u0131r hastal\u0131k d\u00f6nemlerinde bile, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015ftan beri devam etti\u011fi, iki g\u00fcnl\u00fck kaza namaz\u0131n\u0131 asla b\u0131rakmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>4-<\/strong> Yetimlik, sahipsizlik ve fakirlik yan\u0131nda; dini hizmet ve e\u011fitimlerin yasakland\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir ortamda, Haydar Baba sadece Kur&#39;an\u0131 Kerimi ve Osmanl\u0131ca f\u0131khi ve tasavvufi eserleri okumas\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenebilmi\u015f, \u00f6yle d\u00fczenli bir mektep ve medrese e\u011fitimi alamam\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Yani &quot;yar\u0131 \u00fcmmi&quot; say\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131.  <\/p>\n<p> &quot;Tam \u00fcmmi&quot; olmak \u015ferefi ise, sadece Hz. Peygamber Efendimize aitti ve lay\u0131kt\u0131. Burada &quot;\u00fcmmi&quot; kelimesi, her t\u00fcrl\u00fc hikmet ve hakikatin anas\u0131 ve memba\u0131 anlam\u0131ndad\u0131r. Ve tabii: &quot;O Kur&#39;an\u0131 birilerinden \u00f6\u011frendi&quot; veya &quot;Kendisi yaz\u0131p meydana getirdi&quot; iddia ve iftiralar\u0131 ge\u00e7ersiz kals\u0131n diye, Hz. Peygamber Efendimizin hi\u00e7 kimseden ders almam\u0131\u015f ve okuma yazma \u00f6\u011frenmemi\u015f olmas\u0131 da laz\u0131md\u0131.  <\/p>\n<p> Ve bir g\u00fcn r\u00fcya aleminde te\u015frif Buyuran Aleyhisselat\u00fc vesselam Efendimiz kendilerine:  <\/p>\n<p> &quot;Baz\u0131 alimler ve m\u00fcr\u015fitler korkusundan, baz\u0131lar\u0131 da makam ve menfaat kayg\u0131s\u0131ndan, benim dinime ve \u00fcmmetime hizmetten uzak duruyorlar.. Biz de Senin gibi \u00fcmmi ama samimi birisiyle davam\u0131z\u0131 y\u00fcr\u00fctmeye karar verdik&quot; buyurmu\u015flard\u0131.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>5-<\/strong> Hz. Peygamber Efendimiz, Hatem\u00fcl Enbiyayd\u0131. Art\u0131k k\u0131yamete kadar sadece Kur&#39;an\u0131n ayetleri ve O&#39;nun s\u00fcnneti insanl\u0131\u011fa \u0131\u015f\u0131k tutacakt\u0131. Hac\u0131 Haydar Baba ise, &quot;Hatem\u00fcl Evliya&quot; oldu\u011funu bize hat\u0131rlatm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Kendi zaman\u0131nda da, sonras\u0131nda da, elbette tasavvufi hizmet ve hikmet erbab\u0131 vard\u0131 ve olacakt\u0131. Ancak &quot;ke\u015fif, keramet, manevi tasarruf ve himmet&quot; kap\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n kendisiyle kapand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve art\u0131k b\u00fct\u00fcn velayetin ve manevi kuvvetin Hz. Mehdi Aleyhisselamda toplanaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlatm\u0131\u015ft\u0131.  <\/p>\n<p> Ve Hz. Mehdi&#39;nin sad\u0131k talebelerinde, ke\u015fif, keramet gibi hallerin bulunmayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131, ancak cihat ye sadakat eshab\u0131 olarak manevi derecelerinin \u00e7ok y\u00fcksek olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131klam\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Yani Hac\u0131 Haydar Baba kutlu Mehdiyet devrimine haz\u0131rl\u0131k yapan \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli bir Allah eri ve g\u00f6n\u00fcl adam\u0131yd\u0131.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Haydar Baba&#39;n\u0131n manevi terbiye ve ahlaki tedavi usulleri:<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<table border=\"0\" cellspacing=\"0\" cellpadding=\"0\" width=\"100%\">\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>&quot;De ki: Herkes, kendi f\u0131trat\u0131na (yarat\u0131l\u0131\u015f\u0131na ve yap\u0131s\u0131na) g\u00f6re davran\u0131r&quot;<\/em><\/strong><strong><em>(\u0130sra: 84)<\/em><\/strong><strong><em> ayetinin hikmetine uygun olarak, Haydar Baba m\u00fcritlerinin, kabiliyet ve karakterlerini b\u00fcy\u00fck bir basiret ve ferasetle hemen sezer ve herkesin ihtiyac\u0131na ve istidad\u0131na g\u00f6re muamele yapard\u0131.<\/em><\/strong>  \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>\u0130nsanlar\u0131n kalbi hastal\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 anlar ve onlara uygun tedavi re\u00e7eteleri uygulard\u0131.<\/em><\/strong>  \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>Karakter ve kabiliyet dereceleri:<\/em><\/strong>  \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>Haydar Baba her bir ferdin, kendi f\u0131trat\u0131 dahilinde ele al\u0131n\u0131p ke\u015ffedilmesi ve kendini a\u015fma e\u011filimi g\u00f6sterdik\u00e7e de te\u015fvik edilmesi gere\u011fini g\u00f6stermi\u015ftir. Bu sayede ki\u015filer, kabiliyetleri istikametinde e\u011fitilmi\u015f olacak ve bo\u015fa enerji kaybedilmeyecektir.<\/em><\/strong>  \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc: Ruhlar, f\u0131tratlar ve tefekk\u00fcr tarzlar\u0131 ki\u015fiden ki\u015fiye farkl\u0131l\u0131klar arzetmektedir. E\u011fitim ve \u00f6\u011fretimde ve ruhi terbiye s\u00fcrecinde bu farklar g\u00f6z \u00f6n\u00fcnde tutulmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 takdirde istenen verimlilik elde edilemeyecektir. Bunun yan\u0131 s\u0131ra, kendi miza\u00e7, karakter ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnme tarz\u0131m\u0131za uymayan kimselerin, kabiliyet ve ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 takdir edemeyerek onlara hak ettikleri ilgiyi g\u00f6stermeyenler ise b\u00fcy\u00fck bir hata i\u015flemektedirler.<\/em><\/strong>  \t\t\t<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<p> <strong>\u00a0<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> Yale \u00dcniversitesi&#39;nde Psikoloji ve E\u011fitim Profes\u00f6r\u00fc olan Robert J. Sternberg&#39;in: &quot;insanlar, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnme a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan be\u015f farkl\u0131 \u015fekilde grupland\u0131r\u0131labilir:&quot; Tespitleri de Hac\u0131 Haydar Efendi&#39;nin m\u00fcr\u015fidi kamil oldu\u011funun ilmi bir ispat\u0131 gibidir:  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc; D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnme stillerine g\u00f6re insanlar:<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Yap\u0131c\u0131 tipler:<\/strong> Her \u015feyi kendi tarz\u0131na g\u00f6re yapmay\u0131, icat ve dizayn etmeyi sever, belli bir yap\u0131ya pek ba\u011fl\u0131 kalmazlar; bu tiptekiler ilm\u00ee projeler \u00fcretmekten, \u015fiir veya hik\u00e2ye yazmaktan, beste yapmaktan, orijinal eserleri ortaya koymaktan ho\u015flan\u0131rlar.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Kuralc\u0131 tipler:<\/strong> Talimatlara uymay\u0131 sever, kendisine s\u00f6ylenilenleri yaparlar. G\u00f6rev almaktan hay\u0131rl\u0131 i\u015flere yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmaktan ho\u015flan\u0131rlar.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Yarg\u0131lay\u0131c\u0131 tipler:<\/strong> \u0130nsanlar\u0131 ve nesneleri de\u011ferlendirmeyi ve onlar hakk\u0131nda h\u00fck\u00fcm vermeyi severler. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n yapt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 tenkit etmekten, tepki ve tekliflerde bulunmaktan ho\u015flan\u0131rlar.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnme \u015fekillerine g\u00f6re insanlar:<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Olumlu ve uyumlu (Monar\u015fik) tipler:<\/strong> B\u00fct\u00fcn enerji ve kaynaklar\u0131n\u0131 sarf ederek bir anda tek \u015feyi yapmay\u0131 sever; Bir konu \u00fczerinde yo\u011funla\u015f\u0131rlar.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Onurlu ve gururlu (Hiyerar\u015fik) tipler:<\/strong> Bir anda bir\u00e7ok i\u015f yapmay\u0131 sever; her biri i\u00e7in zaman ve enerji harcarken, \u00f6ncelikleri kendi kabiliyet ve kapasitelerini ortaya koyarlar.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Duygulu ve ku\u015fkulu (Oligar\u015fik) tipler:<\/strong> Bir anda bir\u00e7ok i\u015f yapmay\u0131 sever, ancak \u00f6ncelikleri belirlemede zorlan\u0131rlar. Okudu\u011funu ve duydu\u011funu anlama al\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmalar\u0131na yeteri kadar vakit ay\u0131r\u0131rlar.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Huysuz ve co\u015fkulu (Anar\u015fik tipler):<\/strong> G\u00f6revlerini ve problemleri rastgele bir yakla\u015f\u0131mla ele almay\u0131 sever; disiplinden, y\u00f6nlendirmelerden ve s\u0131n\u0131rlamalardan ho\u015flanmazlar. Ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u015fi yar\u0131m b\u0131rak\u0131rlar.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnme seviyelerine g\u00f6re insanlar:<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Genel ve ku\u015fat\u0131c\u0131 (b\u00fct\u00fcnc\u00fcl) d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnen tipler:<\/strong> B\u00fcy\u00fck hedefler, genel projelerle u\u011fra\u015fmay\u0131 severler.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>\u00d6zel ve k\u0131s\u0131tlay\u0131c\u0131 (K\u0131sm\u00ee) d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnen tipler:<\/strong> Detaylarla, \u00f6zel ve somut \u00f6rneklerle u\u011fra\u015fmay\u0131 severler.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce faaliyet sahas\u0131na g\u00f6re insanlar:<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Dahil\u00ee tipler:<\/strong> Yaln\u0131z \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 sever, i\u00e7e do\u011fru odakla\u015f\u0131rlar. Sakin, uysal, biraz da bencil bir yap\u0131dad\u0131rlar.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Haric\u00ee tipler:<\/strong> Ba\u015fkalar\u0131yla \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 sever, d\u0131\u015fa do\u011fru odakla\u015f\u0131rlar ve kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131ktan yanad\u0131rlar. Birlikte projeler yapmaya yatk\u0131nd\u0131rlar.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnme e\u011filimlerine g\u00f6re insanlar:<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Liberal tipler:<\/strong> \u0130\u015fleri yeni yollarla yapmay\u0131 sever, eski \u00e2detlere kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131karlar. Tavsiye edilmese bile yeni bir sistemin nas\u0131l \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Muhafazak\u00e2r tipler:<\/strong> \u0130\u015flerini, denenmi\u015f ve do\u011fru yollarla yapmay\u0131 sever, geleneklere ba\u011fl\u0131 kal\u0131rlar.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Karaktere g\u00f6re e\u011fitim:<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> Ba\u011fl\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n karakter ve kabiliyetini sezen ve \u00f6\u011frencilerinin d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnme stillerini ke\u015ffeden veliler ve \u00f6\u011fretmenler, onlara f\u0131tratlar\u0131na uygun \u00f6devler ve dersler verebilir.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>B\u00f6ylelikle her bir dervi\u015f ve talebe, kerhen de\u011fil \u015fevkle \u00e7al\u0131\u015fabilir. Ancak bu arada, bu stillerin tek bir ki\u015fide kar\u0131\u015f\u0131k olarak, ama farkl\u0131 nispetlerde bulunabilece\u011fi de hesap edilmelidir. Sohbetimize gelenler ve talebeler: ke\u015ffedilip de\u011ferlendirilmeyi bekleyen hammadde ve hamur gibidir. Nas\u0131l yo\u011furup \u015fekil verirsek, ekmek \u00f6yle pi\u015fecektir. Ve art\u0131k yeni bir \u015fekle girmesi \u00e7ok zor hale gelecektir.<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> Sorumluluk sahibi bireyler yeti\u015ftirmek te Tasavvufun hedefidir:  <\/p>\n<table border=\"0\" cellspacing=\"0\" cellpadding=\"0\" width=\"100%\">\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>Sorumluluk k\u0131saca ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n haklar\u0131na sayg\u0131l\u0131 olmak ve kendi davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n sonu\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 y\u00fcklenmek \u015feklinde tan\u0131mlanabilir. Sorumluluk sahibi olmayan bir bireyin ilerleyen zamanlarda sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir yuva kurmas\u0131 da beklenemez. Bu nedenle sa\u011flam bir gelecek isteniyor ise, sorumluluk sahibi bireyler yeti\u015ftirmelidir. Osmanl\u0131 medeniyetinde ve \u0130slam tarihinde tasavvuf ve tarikatlar\u0131n bu konudaki rol\u00fc olduk\u00e7a \u00f6nemlidir.<\/em><\/strong>  \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>Sorumluluk, erken \u00e7ocukluk y\u0131llar\u0131ndan ba\u015flayarak \u00e7ocu\u011fun ya\u015f\u0131na, cinsiyetine ve geli\u015fim d\u00fczeyine uygun g\u00f6revler vermekle geli\u015fmektedir.\u00a0Bu konuda aileye ve okula \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli g\u00f6revler d\u00fc\u015fmektedir. \u00c7ocu\u011fun ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7ta d\u00f6ke sa\u00e7a yapaca\u011f\u0131 i\u015fler daha sonra deneyime ve sorumlulu\u011fa d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fecektir.\u00a0 Buna kar\u015f\u0131 s\u00fcrekli koruyucu ve korkutucu bir yakla\u015f\u0131m, \u00e7ocu\u011fun ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zl\u0131k ve sorumluluk duygusunu engelleyecektir.Tasavvuf ve tekkeler ise, genellikle yeti\u015fkin kimselerin ilmi ve ahlaki e\u011fitimini \u00fcstlenmi\u015f, g\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fc hizmet ve e\u011fitim ocaklar\u0131 yerindedir. <\/em><\/strong> \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>Sorumluluk sahibi kimseler:<\/em><\/strong>  \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>&#8211; Kendi kaynaklar\u0131n\u0131 ve imkanlar\u0131n\u0131 do\u011fru kullanabilen,<\/em><\/strong>  \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>&#8211; Kedisine g\u00fcvenilen,<\/em><\/strong>  \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>&#8211; Kendi kararlar\u0131n\u0131 kendileri veren, <\/em><\/strong> \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>&#8211; Ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131z hareket eden, <\/em><\/strong> \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>&#8211; Davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n sonu\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6z \u00f6n\u00fcne getiren,<\/em><\/strong>  \t\t\t<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<p> \u00a0  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakini tan\u0131madan, psikolojik durumlar\u0131n\u0131 ve sorunlar\u0131n\u0131 anlamadan, onlara yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmak m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fildir.<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> Farkl\u0131 geli\u015fim s\u00fcre\u00e7lerinde, ki\u015filer i\u00e7in gerekli g\u00f6r\u00fclen sorumlulu\u011fun ne d\u00fczeyde olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini bilmek e\u011fitimciler ve m\u00fcr\u015fitler i\u00e7in olduk\u00e7a \u00f6nemlidir.  <\/p>\n<p> \u00d6rne\u011fin gen\u00e7lik \u00e7a\u011f\u0131ndakiler, sosyal olarak ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131z olmak ve akranlar\u0131n\u0131n dikkatini \u00e7ekmek isterler.\u00a0 Bu ya\u015f grubundakiler:  <\/p>\n<p> &#8211; Yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n sonunda kendini nas\u0131l hissedece\u011fini tahmin edebilir.  <\/p>\n<p> &#8211; Aileden ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131z olarak davranma s\u00fcrecindedir.  <\/p>\n<p> &#8211; S\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131 ve dengeleri zorlayabilir.  <\/p>\n<p> &#8211; Bir i\u015f \u00fczerinde yo\u011funla\u015fabilir.  <\/p>\n<p> &#8211; Rekabeti olgunca kar\u015f\u0131layabilir.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Sorumlulu\u011fun anlam\u0131: Yarat\u0131l\u0131\u015f\u0131n anlam\u0131n\u0131 ve amac\u0131n\u0131 kavrayarak;<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> &#8211; Kurallara uymak, g\u00f6revlerini yapmak,  <\/p>\n<p> &#8211; Sa\u011fduyu kullanmak, olumlu ve onurlu davranmak,  <\/p>\n<p> &#8211; Ba\u015fkalar\u0131na ve onlar\u0131n sahip olduklar\u0131 \u00f6zelliklere kar\u015f\u0131 sayg\u0131l\u0131 ve anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131 olmakt\u0131r.  <\/p>\n<p> Sorumlulu\u011fu \u00f6\u011frenmek de t\u0131pk\u0131 di\u011fer becerileri \u00f6\u011frenmek gibidir, insan ne kadar \u00e7ok denerse bu konuda o kadar \u00e7ok ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olur.\u00a0  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Vicdan bast\u0131rma = Sorumsuzluk<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> Bir\u00e7ok insan\u0131n ki\u015fili\u011fi s\u00fcrekli bast\u0131r\u0131l\u0131r, yetkileri k\u0131s\u0131tlan\u0131r ve yetenekleri k\u0131s\u0131rla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131l\u0131rsa o kimse k\u00f6rlenir. P\u0131s\u0131r\u0131k ve pinti bir hale gelir. \u0130\u015fte m\u00fcr\u015fidi kamil bu tipleri hayra ve hizmete y\u00f6nlendirir.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>\u00d6zet olarak: <\/strong>Anne ve babalar, \u00f6\u011fretmenler ve m\u00fcr\u015fitler, talebelerinin ruhsal g\u00fcvenli\u011fine sayg\u0131 g\u00f6stermek a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan, onlara kald\u0131rabilece\u011fi kadar sorumluluk vermelidirler. Ancak bu yolla insanlar kendisine g\u00fcvenini geli\u015ftirecektir.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>\u0130nsan \u0130\u00e7in \u0130ki Yol ve \u0130ki Ama\u00e7 Vard\u0131r: Rabbine teslimiyet yolu, Nefsine esaret yolu&#8230; Birinci yol huzur ve Cennete, \u0130kincisi mutsuzluk ve Cehenneme ula\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r.<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> \u0130nsan, Rabbimiz&#39;e kulluk etmek i\u00e7in yarat\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r ve ya\u015fam\u0131 boyunca yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 her hareketten dolay\u0131 ahirette sorumlu olacakt\u0131r. Allah insanlar\u0131 Kuran&#39;da bildirilen ahlaka uygun ya\u015fay\u0131nca, d\u00fcnyada ve ahirette mutlu ve huzurlu olacaklar\u0131 \u015fekilde yaratm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Bunun aksini ya\u015fayarak bir insan\u0131n huzur bulmas\u0131 m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fildir. Bir ayette \u015f\u00f6yle buyrulur:  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>&quot;\u00d6yleyse sen y\u00fcz\u00fcn\u00fc Allah&#39;\u0131 birleyen (bir hanif) olarak dine, Allah&#39;\u0131n o f\u0131trat\u0131na \u00e7evir; ki insanlar\u0131 bunun \u00fczerine yaratm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Allah&#39;\u0131n yarat\u0131\u015f\u0131 i\u00e7in hi\u00e7 bir de\u011fi\u015ftirme yoktur. \u0130\u015fte dimdik ayakta duran din (budur). Ancak insanlar\u0131n \u00e7o\u011fu bilmezler.&quot;<a name=\"_ftnref4\" href=\"#_ftn4\" title=\"_ftnref4\"><strong>[4]<\/strong><\/a><\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> \u015eeytan ise insanlar\u0131 Allah&#39;\u0131n yolundan sapt\u0131rmak i\u00e7in var g\u00fcc\u00fcyle \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Bunun i\u00e7in \u015feytan\u0131n Allah&#39;a verdi\u011fi ant, ayetlerde \u015f\u00f6yle bildirilir:  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Dedi ki: &quot;Madem \u00f6yle, beni azd\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan dolay\u0131 onlar(\u0131 insanlar\u0131 sapt\u0131rmak) i\u00e7in mutlaka Senin dosdo\u011fru yolunda (pusu kurup) oturaca\u011f\u0131m.&quot;<a name=\"_ftnref5\" href=\"#_ftn5\" title=\"_ftnref5\"><strong>[5]<\/strong><\/a><\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> Her insan hayat\u0131 boyunca \u00f6n\u00fcndeki bu iki yoldan hangisine uyaca\u011f\u0131yla imtihan edilecektir, Vicdan\u0131na uyup Allah&#39;\u0131n r\u0131zas\u0131n\u0131 kazanmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan kimseler, Allah&#39;\u0131n izniyle cennete kavu\u015facak; \u015feytan\u0131n ve nefsinin k\u0131\u015fk\u0131rtmalar\u0131na uyanlar ise cehennemde ac\u0131 bir azapla kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k g\u00f6receklerdir.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Allah&#39;\u0131n R\u0131zas\u0131 \u0130\u00e7in Ya\u015famak m\u0131? \u015eeytani Arzular\u0131 \u0130\u00e7in Yar\u0131\u015fmak m\u0131?<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Yaln\u0131zca M\u00fcminler Allah&#39;a \u0130\u00e7ten Y\u00f6nelirler<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> M\u00fcsl\u00fcmanlar, t\u00fcm varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, mal\u0131n\u0131, can\u0131n\u0131, hayat\u0131n\u0131 ve \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcn\u00fc k\u0131sacas\u0131 her \u015feyini Allah r\u0131zas\u0131n\u0131 kazanmaya adam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>De ki: &quot;\u015e\u00fcphesiz benim namaz\u0131m, ibadetlerim, hayat\u0131m ve \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcm alemlerin Rabbi olan Allah&#39;\u0131nd\u0131r,&quot;<a name=\"_ftnref6\" href=\"#_ftn6\" title=\"_ftnref6\"><strong>[6]<\/strong><\/a><\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>M\u00fcminler Sadece Allah&#39;a Kulluk Ederler<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> M\u00fcmin, yaln\u0131zca Allah&#39;\u0131n ho\u015fnutlu\u011funu arad\u0131\u011f\u0131, yaln\u0131zca O&#39;na yalvard\u0131\u011f\u0131, yaln\u0131zca O&#39;ndan istedi\u011fi i\u00e7indir ki, t\u00fcm yarat\u0131lm\u0131\u015flardan ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zla\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Y\u00fcce Allah d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda hi\u00e7 kimseyi ho\u015fnut etme ihtiyac\u0131 duymaz, Allah&#39;tan ba\u015fkas\u0131ndan medet ummaz. \u0130nsan\u0131n ger\u00e7ek \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc, zaten ancak, bu ger\u00e7e\u011fi kavrayarak Allah&#39;a y\u00f6nelmesiyle olur.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>(\u0130brahim) Hani babas\u0131na demi\u015fti: &quot;Babac\u0131\u011f\u0131m, i\u015fitmeyen, g\u00f6rmeyen ve seni her hangi bir \u015feyden ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zla\u015ft\u0131rmayan \u015feylere niye tap\u0131yorsun?&quot;<a name=\"_ftnref7\" href=\"#_ftn7\" title=\"_ftnref7\"><strong>[7]<\/strong><\/a><\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Vicdan \u0130nsan\u0131n Do\u011fruyu Bulmas\u0131na Her zaman Vesile Olur<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> Allah t\u00fcm insanlara vicdan\u0131na uymay\u0131 ilham eder. \u0130nsanlar onlara ilham edileni dinledi\u011finde, Allah&#39;\u0131n raz\u0131 olaca\u011f\u0131 umulan davran\u0131\u015flarda bulunurlar. Allah&#39;\u0131n bu konudaki h\u00fckm\u00fc \u015fu \u015fekildedir:  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Hay\u0131r, kim (g\u00fczel davran\u0131\u015f ve) iyilikte bulunarak kendisini Allah&#39;a teslim ederse, art\u0131k onun Rabbi Kat\u0131nda ecri vard\u0131r Onlar i\u00e7in korku yoktur ve onlar mahzun olmayacaklard\u0131r.<a name=\"_ftnref8\" href=\"#_ftn8\" title=\"_ftnref8\"><strong>[8]<\/strong><\/a><\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Allah&#39;\u0131n \u0130nananlara Vaadi Sonsuz Cennettir<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> M\u00fcmin, Allah r\u0131zas\u0131 ve ahiret i\u00e7in &quot;ciddi bir \u00e7aba g\u00f6stererek&quot; \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Mal\u0131n\u0131 ve can\u0131n\u0131 Allah r\u0131zas\u0131n\u0131 kazanmaya adam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Rabbimiz Kuran&#39;da m\u00fcminlerin bu \u00f6zelli\u011fini de \u015f\u00f6yle anlat\u0131r:  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Hi\u00e7 \u015f\u00fcphesiz Allah, m\u00fcminlerden -kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131nda onlara mutlaka cenneti vermek \u00fczere- canlar\u0131n\u0131 ve mallar\u0131n\u0131 sat\u0131n alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r&#8230;<a name=\"_ftnref9\" href=\"#_ftn9\" title=\"_ftnref9\"><strong>[9]<\/strong><\/a><\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>\u015eeytan \u0130nsanlar\u0131 Ahirette Yaln\u0131z B\u0131rakacakt\u0131r<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> Y\u00fcce Rabbimiz bir ayette <strong>&quot;&#8230;\u015eeytan da insan\u0131 &#8216;yapayaln\u0131z ve yard\u0131ms\u0131z&#39; b\u0131rakand\u0131r.&quot;<a name=\"_ftnref10\" href=\"#_ftn10\" title=\"_ftnref10\"><strong>[10]<\/strong><\/a> <\/strong>diye bildirmi\u015ftir. D\u00fcnya hayat\u0131 boyunca \u015feytan\u0131n telkinine uyarak ya\u015fayan insanlar ahirette de h\u00fcsrana u\u011frayacaklard\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u015feytan -ahiret g\u00fcn\u00fc kendisinin de itiraf edece\u011fi gibi- kendi taraftarlar\u0131na bo\u015f bir aldan\u0131\u015ftan ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131 vadetmemi\u015ftir.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>\u0130\u015f h\u00fckme ba\u011flan\u0131p-bitince, \u015feytan der ki: &quot;Do\u011frusu, Allah, size ger\u00e7ek olan vadi va&#39;detti, ben de size vaadde bulundum, fakat size yalan s\u00f6yledim. Benim size kar\u015f\u0131 zorlay\u0131c\u0131 bir g\u00fcc\u00fcm yoktu, yaln\u0131zca sizi \u00e7a\u011f\u0131rd\u0131m, siz de bana icabet ettiniz&#8230;&quot;<a name=\"_ftnref11\" href=\"#_ftn11\" title=\"_ftnref11\"><strong>[11]<\/strong><\/a><\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>\u0130nsanlara Kibirli Olmay\u0131 \u00c7ekici G\u00f6sterir<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> Kibir \u015feytan\u0131n en \u00f6nemli \u00f6zelliklerinden biridir. \u015eeytan Allah&#39;\u0131n huzurundan da kibiri ve itaatsizli\u011fi y\u00fcz\u00fcnden kovulmu\u015ftur:  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Yaln\u0131z \u0130blis hari\u00e7. O b\u00fcy\u00fckl\u00fck taslad\u0131 ve k\u00e2firlerden oldu. (Allah) Dedi ki: &quot;Ey \u0130blis, iki elimle yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131ma seni secde etmekten al\u0131koyan neydi? B\u00fcy\u00fcklendin mi, yoksa y\u00fcksekte olanlardan m\u0131 oldun?&quot;<a name=\"_ftnref12\" href=\"#_ftn12\" title=\"_ftnref12\"><strong>[12]<\/strong><\/a><\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> \u015eeytan\u0131n bu \u00f6nemli hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131 insanlar i\u00e7in de b\u00fcy\u00fck bir tehlikedir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u015feytan bir insan\u0131 kendisine yak\u0131n k\u0131lmak i\u00e7in \u00f6ncelikle kendi hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 o insana bula\u015ft\u0131rmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Bu hastal\u0131\u011fa yakalanan bir kimsenin akl\u0131 \u00f6rt\u00fcl\u00fcr, \u015fuuru kapan\u0131r.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>\u015eeytan \u0130nsanlar\u0131 Sapt\u0131rmak \u0130\u00e7in \u00c7e\u015fitli Yollar Deneyecektir<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> \u015eeytan b\u00fct\u00fcn insanlar\u0131 kendisiyle birlikte cehenneme s\u00fcr\u00fcklemek i\u00e7in var g\u00fcc\u00fcyle \u00e7abalar. Kuranda \u015f\u00f6yle bildirir:  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>&quot;Sonra muhakkak \u00f6nlerinden, arkalar\u0131ndan, sa\u011flar\u0131ndan ve sollar\u0131ndan sokulaca\u011f\u0131m. Onlar\u0131n \u00e7o\u011funu \u015f\u00fckredici bulmayacaks\u0131n.<a name=\"_ftnref13\" href=\"#_ftn13\" title=\"_ftnref13\"><strong>[13]<\/strong><\/a>&quot; <a name=\"_ftnref14\" href=\"#_ftn14\" title=\"_ftnref14\"><strong>[14]<\/strong><\/a><\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Tasavvufun bir amac\u0131 da nefsin azg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 dizginlemek, hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 disiplinize etmek ve \u00f6fkemizi yenebilmektir:<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<table border=\"0\" cellspacing=\"0\" cellpadding=\"0\" width=\"100%\">\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>K\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131kla ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kma y\u00f6ntemleri <\/em><\/strong> \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>K\u0131zg\u0131n olmak mutlaka hiddet g\u00f6stermek anlam\u0131na gelmemektedir. Ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131klar \u00e7o\u011fu kez \u015fiddet \u00f6\u011fesi i\u00e7ermeyebilir, hatta kontrol\u00fcm\u00fcz d\u0131\u015f\u0131na bile \u00e7\u0131kmayabilir. K\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k basit bir irkilme, s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 hissi yada g\u00fcnl\u00fck problemlere verdi\u011fimiz tepki olarak kendini g\u00f6sterebilir. Bununla birlikte k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n; \u0130li\u015fkilerimize ve sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131za zarar verdi\u011fi kesindir. Ve \u00f6fke \u015feytandan bilinmelidir.<\/em><\/strong>  \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>Neden \u00f6fkeli \u015fekilde tepki verdi\u011fimizi anlamak \u00f6nemlidir, ancak daha \u00f6nemlisi k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 kontrol alt\u0131na alabilmektir. K\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k \u00e7o\u011funlukla; bir haks\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa ve hakarete u\u011frad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda, kullan\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fczde yada bizim i\u00e7in \u00f6nemli olan\u0131 kaybetme riskiyle kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ya geldi\u011fimizde ortaya \u00e7\u0131kmaktad\u0131r. Bu duygular sa\u011fl\u0131ks\u0131z ve tahrip edici bir \u015fekilde s\u00fcrebilir.\u00a0\u00a0 <\/em><\/strong> \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>Zihnimizdeki bu durumdan kurtulman\u0131n tek yolu, vicdani sorumluluklar\u0131m\u0131zla duygular\u0131m\u0131z aras\u0131ndaki dengeyi kurabilmektir.<\/em><\/strong>  \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>K\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k gerekti\u011fi gibi kontrol edilmese hayat\u0131m\u0131z boyunca bizimle kalabilir. Bizi tamiri ve telafisi imkans\u0131z konumlara ve sonunda pi\u015fman ve peri\u015fan olaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z durumlara sokabilir. Ancak manevi bir savunma ve kendi haklar\u0131m\u0131za sahip \u00e7\u0131kma mekanizmas\u0131 olarak bize verilen k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k hissini do\u011fru y\u00f6nlendirebilirsek belki de \u00fcretkenimizi tam kapasite kullanmam\u0131za yarayabilir.<\/em><\/strong>  \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t&#160; \t\t\t<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<p> <strong>\u00a0<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>K\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131kla m\u00fccadele bir e\u011fitim ve deneyim i\u015fidir:<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> K\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k durumlar\u0131nda her birimiz tepkilerimizi, bize zaman\u0131nda \u00f6rnek model olu\u015fturmu\u015f ve \u015fu an k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zla ba\u015f etmemizi zorla\u015ft\u0131racak belli davran\u0131\u015flar \u00fczerine in\u015fa ederiz. \u00d6rne\u011fin; ailemizde k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131kla ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kma yolunun ba\u011f\u0131r\u0131p-\u00e7a\u011f\u0131rmak oldu\u011funa tan\u0131k olduysak b\u00fcy\u00fck ihtimalle biz de bu gibi durumlarda benzer tepkiler veririz.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>\u00d6fkelenme durumunda tak\u0131n\u0131lan ba\u015fl\u0131ca tav\u0131rlar:<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>1- \u00dcrkeklik g\u00f6stermek ve sineye \u00e7ekmek:<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> E\u011fer k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 geri \u00e7ekilme ve i\u00e7imize g\u00f6mme y\u00f6ntemiyle engelleme gayreti i\u00e7indeysek, sorumluluklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 yerine getirmiyor ve kendimizi hayat\u0131n risklerinden uzak tutuyoruz demektir. Bu;\u00a0 kendimize olan sayg\u0131y\u0131 yitirmeye yol a\u00e7abilir. Ve tabii yanl\u0131\u015f bir tercihtir.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Yap\u0131lmas\u0131 gerekenler:<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> &#8211; \u00d6fkemizi bast\u0131rma konusundaki k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ba\u015far\u0131lar i\u00e7in kendimize \u00f6d\u00fcl vermeli  <\/p>\n<p> &#8211; Korkular\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 listelemeli, a\u015fmay\u0131 denemeli ve kendimize g\u00fcvenmeli  <\/p>\n<p> &#8211; Bize yap\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131 istedi\u011fimiz \u015feyi ba\u015fkalar\u0131na da reva g\u00f6rmeli  <\/p>\n<p> &#8211; Haks\u0131zl\u0131k ve yanl\u0131\u015fl\u0131klar\u0131, k\u0131z\u0131p k\u00f6p\u00fcrmeden ve k\u0131r\u0131p d\u00f6kmeden \u00f6nlemelidir.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>2- \u0130\u00e7selle\u015ftirmek ve i\u00e7imize g\u00f6mmek:<\/strong> E\u011fer k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 i\u00e7selle\u015ftirmek ve g\u00f6nl\u00fcm\u00fczde biriktirmek y\u00f6ntemiyle engelleme gayreti i\u00e7indeysek kendi kendimize sadece g\u00fccenme ve k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k ya\u015fatmakla kalmay\u0131p, ayn\u0131 zamanda \u00fczerimizdeki bask\u0131y\u0131 hafifletmek i\u00e7in b\u00fcy\u00fck miktarda stres de yap\u0131yoruz demektir. Ve kendimize hakarettir.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Oysa gerekenler:<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> -Kendi hakl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131, m\u00fcnasip \u015fekilde dile getirmeli  <\/p>\n<p> &#8211; \u0130\u00e7imize att\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z duygular\u0131n baz\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 ka\u011f\u0131da d\u00f6kmeli.  <\/p>\n<p> &#8211; Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnece\u011fi ile ilgili olarak fazla kafa yorup \u00fcz\u00fclmemelidir.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>3- Patlamak ve h\u00fccuma ge\u00e7mek:<\/strong> E\u011fer k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 &quot;patlama y\u00f6ntemiyle&quot; d\u0131\u015fa vurup ba\u011f\u0131r\u0131p \u00e7a\u011f\u0131r\u0131yorsak; su\u00e7un ve sorumlulu\u011fun y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fc de\u011fi\u015ftirip k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n ba\u015fka bir ki\u015fiye bo\u015falt\u0131lmas\u0131 yolunu se\u00e7iyoruz demektir. Yarars\u0131z ve haks\u0131z bir harekettir.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Yap\u0131lmas\u0131 gerekenler:<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> &#8211; Bu patlamalar\u0131 tetikleyen duygular\u0131n fark\u0131na var\u0131p frenlemeli  <\/p>\n<p> &#8211; Kendimizi daha iyi ifade etmek i\u00e7in neler yap\u0131labilece\u011fi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclmeli.  <\/p>\n<p> &#8211; \u00d6fkemize kap\u0131l\u0131p \u015feytan\u0131n oyunca\u011f\u0131 durumuna d\u00fc\u015f\u00fclmemelidir.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>4- Kontrol ve kumanda etmek:<\/strong> E\u011fer k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 &quot;kontrol etme ve dengeli tepki verme&quot; yoluyla engelleme gayreti i\u00e7indeysek, her \u015feyi kontrol etmeye ve her t\u00fcr muhtemel sorunu \u00e7\u00f6zmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yoruz demektir. En do\u011fru ve de\u011ferli olan y\u00f6ntemdir. Ki\u015finin kendisine ait d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015fka biri taraf\u0131ndan planlanmas\u0131 \u00e7ok s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 ya\u015fat\u0131r ve bunun sonucunda k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k do\u011far. Etraf\u0131m\u0131zdaki sorunlarla ilgilenmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak kendimizi yorgun ve engellenmi\u015f hissetmemize neden olacakt\u0131r.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>De\u011fi\u015fim i\u00e7in gerekenler<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> &#8211; T\u00fcm \u00f6ncelikli i\u015fleri ve g\u00f6revleri de\u011ferlendirmeli.  <\/p>\n<p> &#8211; &quot;Kontrol\u00fc kaybetme&quot; durumuna d\u00fc\u015f\u00fclmemeli.  <\/p>\n<p> &#8211; Bizi\u00a0 olumlu davran\u0131\u015fa y\u00f6nelten inan\u00e7 ve ideallerimize g\u00f6re hareket etmelidir.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>\u00d6fkenin Nedenleri:<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> Bizi k\u0131zd\u0131ran fakt\u00f6rlerin b\u00fcy\u00fck k\u0131sm\u0131 a\u015fa\u011f\u0131daki gibi s\u0131n\u0131fland\u0131r\u0131labilir:  <\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>a- <\/strong><strong>Haks\u0131zl\u0131klara muhatap olmak<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>b- <\/strong><strong>Hakarete u\u011framak<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>c- <\/strong><strong>Hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ya\u015famak<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>d- <\/strong><strong>Emir ve \u00f6nerileri hesaba kat\u0131lmamak<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>e- <\/strong><strong>Ani s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 ve sorunlarla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fmak<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<table border=\"0\" cellspacing=\"0\" cellpadding=\"0\" width=\"100%\">\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>Din b\u00fcy\u00fcklerimiz:<\/em><\/strong>  \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>1- Dinimize ve kutsal de\u011ferlerimize, \u00fclkemize ve devletimize, namus ve haysiyetimize y\u00f6nelik sald\u0131r\u0131 ve sata\u015fmalar ve her t\u00fcrl\u00fc zul\u00fcm ve haks\u0131zl\u0131klar kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda k\u0131zmak ve kutsallar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 korumak; FARZ<\/em><\/strong>  \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>2- Basit \u00e7\u0131karlar\u0131m\u0131za, nefsi duygular\u0131m\u0131za, \u015fahsi arzular\u0131m\u0131za dokunuldu\u011fu ve aile i\u00e7i beklentilerimizin unutuldu\u011fu durumlarda ve istenmeden yap\u0131lan kusurlar kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda k\u0131zsak bile, \u00f6fkemizi yutmak ve ba\u011f\u0131\u015flamak; S\u00dcNNET VE FAZ\u0130LET<\/em><\/strong>  \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>3- Anne babam\u0131z\u0131n, Hoca ve \u00fcstatlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n bizi terbiye ve terakki i\u00e7in yapt\u0131klar\u0131 uyar\u0131lar\u0131na, kanun adamlar\u0131n\u0131n ve komutanlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n, kusur ve ihmalk\u00e2rl\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131za y\u00f6nelik tak\u0131nd\u0131klar\u0131 sert tav\u0131rlar\u0131na, zul\u00fcm ve haks\u0131zl\u0131k etti\u011fimiz insanlar\u0131n itiraz ve isyanlar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 \u00f6fkelenip ba\u011f\u0131rmak ve kalplerini k\u0131rmak ise; HARAM<\/em><\/strong>  \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>4- Namaz, oru\u00e7, zekat ve cihat gibi ibadetlerin zorlu\u011fundan&#8230; takdir edilen kaza, bela ve hastal\u0131klar\u0131n \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fc ve zararlar\u0131ndan dolay\u0131, ha\u015fa, Allah&#39;a k\u0131zmak ve<\/em><\/strong>  \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>&quot;Bunlar\u0131 yapmam\u0131z\u0131 istemen \u015fart m\u0131yd\u0131?&quot;<\/em><\/strong>  \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>&quot;Bu belalar\u0131 hak edecek ne su\u00e7um vard\u0131?&quot;<\/em><\/strong>  \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>&quot;Bu yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n adalet ve merhamete s\u0131\u011far m\u0131?&quot;<\/em><\/strong>  \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t<strong><em>gibi s\u00f6zler konu\u015fmak ise K\u00dcF\u00dcRD\u00dcR demi\u015flerdir.<\/em><\/strong>  \t\t\t<\/p>\n<p> \t\t\t&#160; \t\t\t<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<p> <strong>\u00a0<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Bizi b\u00f6ylesi s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 ve sars\u0131nt\u0131larla imtihan edenin bizzat Allah oldu\u011funu, her \u015feyi O&#39;nun tayin ve takdir buyurdu\u011funu, bize zahiren haks\u0131zl\u0131k ve yanl\u0131\u015fl\u0131k yapan kimselerin, asl\u0131nda sadece rol\u00fcn\u00fc oynayan bir akt\u00f6r konumunda bulundu\u011funu, kadere r\u0131za g\u00f6sterip sabredenlerin kurtuldu\u011funu, asla unutmamak gerekir.<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 HAYDAR BABA<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> &#160; <\/p>\n<p> <strong>O Mevla&#39;ya sad\u0131k ve a\u015f\u0131k bir kuldu.<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Kadiri kolunda, ayr\u0131 okuldu..<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>\u00d6z\u00fc hikmet dolu, s\u00f6z\u00fc makuldu.<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Alt\u0131n varken bak\u0131r, se\u00e7meyin canlar<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Haydar Baba deyip, ge\u00e7meyin canlar!<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> &#160; <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Kesretten kurtulup, vahdete ermi\u015f<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Elin halka, g\u00f6nl\u00fcn; Hazrete vermi\u015f!<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Nefsini \u00e7ul edip, Rabbine sermi\u015f!<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Her tas \u015ferbet san\u0131p, i\u00e7meyin canlar<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Haydar Baba deyip, ge\u00e7meyin canlar!<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> &#160; <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Allah&#39;\u0131n izniyle, haz\u0131r himmeti<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Herkes: hizmet kadar, bulur k\u0131ymeti<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>En b\u00fcy\u00fck sermayen, \u00f6m\u00fcr nimeti<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>D\u00fcnyadan eli bo\u015f, g\u00f6\u00e7meyin canlar<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Haydar Baba deyip, ge\u00e7meyin canlar!<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> &#160; <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Zalime haine, meyleden cahil<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>K\u00fcfr\u00fc, k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc; ho\u015f g\u00f6ren gafil<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>M\u00fcr\u015fitsiz, zikirsiz; seyreden safdil<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Doktordan, dergahtan; ka\u00e7may\u0131n canlar<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Haydar Baba deyip, ge\u00e7meyin canlar!<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> &#160; <\/p>\n<p> <strong>G\u00fcne\u015fi b\u0131rak\u0131p, ampula ko\u015fan<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Cennetleri sat\u0131p, on pula ko\u015fan<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Gel Kur&#39;ana s\u0131\u011f\u0131n, kullu\u011fun ku\u015fan<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Sermayeniz bo\u015fa, sa\u00e7may\u0131n canlar<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Haydar Baba deyip, ge\u00e7meyin canlar!<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> &#160; <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Ne d\u00fcnyaya meyletti, ne Hak&#39;tan sapt\u0131<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Mehdiyet devrimine, haz\u0131rl\u0131k yapt\u0131<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>O&#39;nun g\u00f6nl\u00fc beytullah, y\u00fcz\u00fc mihrapt\u0131<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>\u00c7ifte kanat takmadan, u\u00e7may\u0131n canlar<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Haydar Baba deyip, ge\u00e7meyin canlar!<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> &#160; <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Derdi ki: &quot;Milli G\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f; ne b\u00fcy\u00fck s\u0131rd\u0131r,<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Alemler bunu bekler, nice as\u0131rd\u0131r!&quot;<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>\u015ea\u015f\u0131 bakan \u015fa\u015fk\u0131n\u0131n, akl\u0131 k\u0131s\u0131rd\u0131r<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Ahmaklara s\u0131rr\u0131n\u0131z, a\u00e7may\u0131n canlar<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Haydar Baba deyip, ge\u00e7meyin canlar!<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> &#160; <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Tam zulmet d\u00f6nemiydi, ve rehber yo\u011fdu<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Elaz\u0131\u011f&#39;\u0131n Palu&#39;dan, bir kamer do\u011fdu<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>\u00c7ok \u015f\u00fck\u00fcr, tevhid nuru; \u0130blisi bo\u011fdu<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Sak\u0131n on kez \u00f6l\u00e7meden; bi\u00e7meyin canlar<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>Haydar Baba deyip, ge\u00e7meyin canlar!<\/strong>  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/strong> <\/p>\n<p> &#160; <\/p>\n<p> &#160; <\/p>\n<p> &#160; <\/p>\n<p> &#160; <\/p>\n<p> &#160; <\/p>\n<p> &#160; <\/p>\n<p> &#160; <\/p>\n<p> &#160; <\/p>\n<p> <\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p> <a name=\"_ftn1\" href=\"#_ftnref1\" title=\"_ftn1\">[1]<\/a> Hicr: 99  <\/p>\n<p> <a name=\"_ftn2\" href=\"#_ftnref2\" title=\"_ftn2\">[2]<\/a> \u0130n\u015firah: 7-8  <\/p>\n<p> <a name=\"_ftn3\" href=\"#_ftnref3\" title=\"_ftn3\">[3]<\/a> M\u00fczemmil: 1-8  <\/p>\n<p> <a name=\"_ftn4\" href=\"#_ftnref4\" title=\"_ftn4\">[4]<\/a> Rum: 30  <\/p>\n<p> <a name=\"_ftn5\" href=\"#_ftnref5\" title=\"_ftn5\">[5]<\/a> A&#39;raf: 16  <\/p>\n<p> <a name=\"_ftn6\" href=\"#_ftnref6\" title=\"_ftn6\">[6]<\/a> Enam: 162  <\/p>\n<p> <a name=\"_ftn7\" href=\"#_ftnref7\" title=\"_ftn7\">[7]<\/a> Meryem: 42  <\/p>\n<p> <a name=\"_ftn8\" href=\"#_ftnref8\" title=\"_ftn8\">[8]<\/a> Bakara: 112  <\/p>\n<p> <a name=\"_ftn9\" href=\"#_ftnref9\" title=\"_ftn9\">[9]<\/a> Tevbe: 111  <\/p>\n<p> <a name=\"_ftn10\" href=\"#_ftnref10\" title=\"_ftn10\">[10]<\/a> Furkan: 29  <\/p>\n<p> <a name=\"_ftn11\" href=\"#_ftnref11\" title=\"_ftn11\">[11]<\/a> \u0130brahim: 22  <\/p>\n<p> <a name=\"_ftn12\" href=\"#_ftnref12\" title=\"_ftn12\">[12]<\/a> Sad: 74-75  <\/p>\n<p> <a name=\"_ftn13\" href=\"#_ftnref13\" title=\"_ftn13\">[13]<\/a> Araf: 17  <\/p>\n<p> <a name=\"_ftn14\" href=\"#_ftnref14\" title=\"_ftn14\">[14]<\/a> \u0130lmi Mercek \/ May\u0131s &#8211; 2006  <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00a0  <\/p>\n<p> Hac\u0131 Haydar Baba Hz.leri \u00f6zellikle \u015fu be\u015f y\u00f6n\u00fcyle Hz. Peygamber Efendimize \u00e7ok benzemekteydi.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>1-<\/strong> O da, Aleyhisselat\u00fc vesselam Efendimiz gibi, \u00e7ok k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015fta iken, hem \u00f6ks\u00fcz hem yetim kalm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Yani, bir nevi Cenab\u0131 Hak O&#39;nu da, bizzat kendi himayesine ve terbiyesine alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. O&#39;nun Mevlas\u0131ndan ba\u015fka meyil ve muhabbet edece\u011fi kimsesi kalmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131.  <\/p>\n<p> <strong>2-<\/strong> Haydar Baba&#39;n\u0131n \u00e7ocuklu\u011fu ve gen\u00e7lik y\u0131llar\u0131 da, Hz. Peygamber Efendimize benzer bir istikamet ve nezahetle ya\u015fanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131.. \u00c7ocuklu\u011fundan itibaren, s\u00fcrekli alimlerin, velilerin sohbetlerine kat\u0131lm\u0131\u015f, hizmet1erine katlanm\u0131\u015f; ihlas suresinin faziletini \u00f6\u011frenince, hen\u00fcz on \u00fc\u00e7-on d\u00f6rt ya\u015flar\u0131nda, virt edip okudu\u011fu ihlas say\u0131s\u0131n\u0131, her g\u00fcn bazen on bine \u00e7\u0131karm\u0131\u015ft\u0131.  <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[33],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-134","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-temmuz-2006"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.millicozum.com\/mc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/134","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.millicozum.com\/mc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.millicozum.com\/mc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.millicozum.com\/mc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.millicozum.com\/mc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=134"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.millicozum.com\/mc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/134\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.millicozum.com\/mc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=134"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.millicozum.com\/mc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=134"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.millicozum.com\/mc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=134"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}