Soru: \u0130slam’da \u00c7ocuk Haklar\u0131 ve Terbiye-E\u011fitim kurallar\u0131yla ilgili bizleri ayd\u0131nlat\u0131r m\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z?<\/strong><\/span><\/p> \u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z Rabbimizin bizlere en \u00f6nemli nimeti ve emaneti say\u0131l\u0131r. Hz. Peygamber Efendimiz \u00e7ocuklara devaml\u0131 \u015fefkat ve merhametle yakla\u015fm\u0131\u015f, onlar\u0131n en \u00f6nemli g\u0131dalar\u0131n\u0131n sevgi ve ilgi oldu\u011funu bizlere fiilen \u00f6\u011fretmi\u015f ve \u00f6\u011f\u00fctlemi\u015f bulunmaktad\u0131r.<\/strong><\/span><\/p> Hatta Mescid-i Nebi’de cemaate imaml\u0131k yaparlarken, d\u0131\u015far\u0131da s\u00fcrekli a\u011flayan bir \u00e7ocuk sesi duyunca namazlar\u0131n\u0131 k\u0131sa tutup, mescitten \u00e7\u0131karak onunla ilgilendi\u011fini asla unutmamal\u0131d\u0131r. Ve yine torunlar\u0131n\u0131n ve ba\u015fka \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n, namazda secdeye vard\u0131klar\u0131nda Peygamberimizin s\u0131rt\u0131na oturduklar\u0131 ve onlar d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcp \u00fcz\u00fclmesinler diye secdeyi uzatt\u0131klar\u0131 aktar\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. (\u0130mam Nesai \u0130ftitah b\u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc 1139 nolu hadis)<\/strong><\/span><\/p> Hz. Aiy\u015fe Validemiz, Peygamber Efendimize:<\/strong><\/span><\/p> \u201cYa Resul\u00fcllah, bir kad\u0131n\u0131n \u00fczerinde en \u00e7ok hak sahibi kimdir?\u201d<\/em><\/strong> diye sorduklar\u0131nda, Efendimiz: \u201cKOCASIDIR!\u201d buyurmu\u015flar ve babal\u0131k g\u00f6revinin a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve kutsall\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 vurgulam\u0131\u015flard\u0131r.<\/strong><\/span><\/p> Bu sefer Hz. Aiy\u015fe: \u201cPeki ya kocalar\u0131n \u00fczerinde en \u00e7ok hak sahibi olan kimdir?\u201d<\/em> diye sorunca, Efendimiz: \u201cANASIDIR!\u201d buyurmakla, sorumluluk dengesini ve kad\u0131n-erkek e\u015fitli\u011fini ortaya koymu\u015flard\u0131r. <\/strong><\/span><\/p> \u201c\u2026 Erkek ise k\u0131z (kad\u0131n) gibi de\u011fildir\u201d<\/em><\/strong> (\u00c2l-i \u0130mr\u00e2n: 36) ayeti, erkeklerin \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcne de\u011fil, kad\u0131n ve erkeklerin f\u0131trat farkl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131na ve yarat\u0131l\u0131\u015ftaki \u00f6zellik ayr\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131na dikkat \u00e7ekme ama\u00e7l\u0131d\u0131r.<\/strong><\/span><\/p> \u0130slam’da \u00e7ocuk haklar\u0131n\u0131 konu\u015furken, anne-baba haklar\u0131n\u0131 da unutmamal\u0131d\u0131r!<\/strong><\/span><\/p> \u201cBiz insana anne ve babas\u0131n\u0131 (onlara iyilikle davranmay\u0131) da emir ve tavsiye ettik. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc annesi onu, zorluk \u00fcst\u00fcne zorlukla (karn\u0131nda) ta\u015f\u0131m\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Onun (s\u00fctten) ayr\u0131lmas\u0131 ise, iki y\u0131l i\u00e7inde (tamamlan\u0131r). Bu nedenle \u2018hem Bana, hem anne ve babana \u015f\u00fckret ki, d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f yaln\u0131z Banad\u0131r.\u2019 (\u015e\u00fck\u00fcr m\u00fc, nank\u00f6rl\u00fck m\u00fc yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n hesab\u0131 sorulacakt\u0131r.)<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p> Bununla birlikte, onlar\u0131n ikisi (annen ve baban), hakk\u0131nda bir bilgin olmayan \u015feyi (k\u00f6r\u00fc k\u00f6r\u00fcne) Bana \u015firk ko\u015fman (ve isyana kalk\u0131\u015fman) i\u00e7in, sana kar\u015f\u0131 (m\u00fccadele edip) \u00e7aba harcayacak olurlarsa, bu durumda onlara itaat etme; (onlar\u0131n iste\u011fi i\u00e7in Benim emrimi terk etmek, \u015firktir! Ama) d\u00fcnya (hayat\u0131n)da onlar\u0131 iyilikle (ma’ruf \u00fczere) sahiplenip (anne babanla iyi ge\u00e7in) ve Bana ‘g\u00f6n\u00fclden-kat\u0131ks\u0131z olarak y\u00f6nelen’ kimselerin (inabe ve itaat edenlerin) yoluna t\u00e2bi ol. Sonra d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcz yaln\u0131zca Banad\u0131r, b\u00f6ylece Ben de size b\u00fct\u00fcn yapt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 haber verip (hat\u0131rlataca\u011f\u0131m).\u201d <\/em><\/strong>(Lokman: 14-15) ayetleri \u00fczerinde dikkatle durulmal\u0131d\u0131r! <\/strong><\/span><\/p> \u201cSenin Rabbinin h\u00fckm\u00fc \u015f\u00f6yledir: O’ndan ba\u015fkas\u0131na kulluk yapmay\u0131n ve anne-babaya ihsan ve iyilikle davran\u0131n (diye emretmektedir). \u015eayet onlardan biri veya ikisi senin yan\u0131nda ya\u015fl\u0131l\u0131\u011fa ula\u015f\u0131rsa, onlara: \u2018\u00d6f\u2019 bile deme ve onlar\u0131 azarlama; onlara g\u00fczel (tatl\u0131 ve g\u00f6n\u00fcl al\u0131c\u0131) s\u00f6z s\u00f6yle (ki \u0130slam ve insanl\u0131k bunu gerektirir).<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p> Onlara ac\u0131yarak al\u00e7ak g\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fcl\u00fck kanad\u0131n\u0131 ger ve de ki: \u2018Rabbim, onlar beni k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fckken nas\u0131l (\u015fefkatle) terbiye ettilerse Sen de onlar\u0131 esirge\u2019 (diye dua etmeli, h\u00fcrmet ve \u015fefkat g\u00f6stermelidir).\u201d <\/em><\/strong>(\u0130sr\u00e2: 23-24) emirlerine mutlaka uyulmal\u0131d\u0131r. <\/strong><\/span><\/p> Ve asla unutulmas\u0131n ki; \u00f6zellikle ANNE\u2019lerin evlatlar\u0131ndan umduklar\u0131 ve psikolojik g\u0131dalar\u0131 MUHABBET (yani sevilmek ve iltifat edilmek)tir. BABA\u2019lar\u0131n ise evlatlar\u0131ndan \u00f6ncelikli beklentileri ve arzulad\u0131klar\u0131 H\u00dcRMET (yani sayg\u0131 g\u00f6stermek)tir. G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde HA\u00c7LI ve ahl\u00e2ks\u0131z Bat\u0131\u2019n\u0131n ve AB dayatmalar\u0131n\u0131n sonucu, <\/strong>g\u00fcya \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck ve \u00e7ocuk haklar\u0131<\/em><\/strong> k\u0131l\u0131f\u0131yla, anne-babay\u0131 takmayan ve ailedeki sorumluluk bilincini tan\u0131mayan yakla\u015f\u0131mlar ve yasalar; asl\u0131nda bir nevi ebeveynleri devre d\u0131\u015f\u0131 b\u0131rakmak ve evlatlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 fiilen \u00f6ks\u00fcz ve yetim b\u0131rakmak anlam\u0131ndad\u0131r.<\/strong><\/span><\/p> G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n e\u011fitim ve \u00f6\u011fretiminde, aile yuvas\u0131ndan ve anne-babas\u0131ndan ziyade, \u00e7evre, okul, televizyon ve internetli telefonlar etkili olmaktad\u0131r. Bunlar\u0131n \u0131slah\u0131 ve hay\u0131rl\u0131 y\u00f6nde yay\u0131n yapmalar\u0131 ise fertlerden ziyade h\u00fck\u00fcmetlerin yetki alan\u0131ndad\u0131r. \u0130\u015fte bu y\u00fczden S\u0130YAS\u0130 \u015eUUR VE SORUMLULUK sadece g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc ve g\u00fcvenli\u011fimizi de\u011fil, gelece\u011fimizi ve neslimizi de kurtarman\u0131n en \u00f6nemli arac\u0131d\u0131r.<\/strong><\/span><\/p> Hz. Peygamberimizin \u00c7ocuklara Yakla\u015f\u0131m\u0131<\/strong><\/span><\/p> Sevgili Peygamberimizin rahmet ve \u015fefkat dolu hazinesinden belki de en fazla \u00e7ocuklar nasibini alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Zira O\u2019nun m\u00fcjdeleyici ve uyar\u0131c\u0131 olarak geldi\u011fi cahiliye devrinde ne ac\u0131d\u0131r ki, k\u0131z \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 bir utan\u00e7 vesilesi olarak kabul ediliyor, diri diri topraklara g\u00f6m\u00fcl\u00fcyor, sevgi ve merhametten mahrum bir \u015fekilde yeti\u015fiyorlard\u0131. \u0130slam Peygamberi t\u00fcm bu yanl\u0131\u015fl\u0131klar\u0131 ortadan kald\u0131rm\u0131\u015f, \u00e7ocuklara hak ettikleri de\u011feri ve sayg\u0131y\u0131 kazand\u0131rm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/strong><\/span><\/p> Hz. Muhammed (SAV) Efendimiz iman, ibadet, ahl\u00e2k ve sosyal hayata dair \u00e7ok do\u011fru ve olumlu yenilikleri getirmesi yan\u0131nda, \u00e7ocuklarla ileti\u015fim, onlar\u0131n e\u011fitimi, onlara verilecek de\u011fer, g\u00f6sterilecek sevgi ve \u015fefkat konular\u0131nda da \u00e7ok anlaml\u0131 yenilik ve g\u00fczellikler getirmi\u015f ve uygulam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Mesela bir seferinde, Tem\u00eem kabilesinden Akra\u2019 b. H\u00e2bis, Resul\u00fcllah\u2019\u0131n (SAV) torunu Hasan\u2019\u0131 \u00f6pt\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6r\u00fcnce: \u201cBenim on \u00e7ocu\u011fum var ancak hi\u00e7birini \u00f6pmedim.\u201d<\/em> demi\u015ftir. Bunun \u00fczerine Hz. Peygamber (SAV) ona bakm\u0131\u015f ve \u201cMerhamet etmeyene merhamet edilmez!\u201d<\/em> \u015feklinde kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k vermi\u015ftir. (Buh\u00e2r\u00ee, Edep, 18)<\/strong><\/span><\/p> Evlatlar\u0131m\u0131za kar\u015f\u0131 ana-babal\u0131k g\u00f6revimiz yaln\u0131zca onlar\u0131 doyurmak, giydirip ku\u015fand\u0131rmak demek de\u011fildir. Bunlarla birlikte, onlara de\u011fer ve sayg\u0131 g\u00f6sterilmesi, e\u011fitim ve terbiyelerinin verilmesi, sevgi i\u00e7inde manevi geli\u015fimlerine dikkat edilmesi b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00f6nem arz etmektedir. Bu nedenledir ki, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n mektebe, medeni ili\u015fkilere, toplum d\u00fczenine, manevi disipline ve ahl\u00e2ki de\u011ferlere al\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lmalar\u0131n\u0131, \u015fefkatle kuca\u011fa al\u0131n\u0131p sevgiyle ok\u015fanmalar\u0131n\u0131, ibadetlerin onlarla birlikte yap\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131; her konuda \u00e7ocuklara iyi \u00f6rneklik yap\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131 ve k\u00f6t\u00fc \u00f6rneklikten sak\u0131n\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131, bizzat Peygamberimiz \u00f6\u011f\u00fctlemi\u015f ve g\u00f6stermi\u015ftir. Nitekim Hz. Zeynep\u2019ten olan k\u0131z torunu \u00dcm\u00e2me\u2019yi omzunda ta\u015f\u0131r vaziyette namaza duran, r\u00fck\u00fbya varaca\u011f\u0131 zaman indirip k\u0131yama kalkaca\u011f\u0131 zaman tekrar omuzuna bindirerek namaz\u0131n\u0131 tamamlayan ve bu \u015fekilde cemaate imaml\u0131k eden bir Nebi\u2019nin \u00fcmmetiyiz. Efendimiz, \u201cHi\u00e7bir anne baba \u00e7ocu\u011funa g\u00fczel terbiyeden daha k\u0131ymetli miras b\u0131rakamaz\u201d<\/em> buyururken onlar\u0131n e\u011fitimine verdi\u011fi \u00f6nemi belirtmi\u015ftir.[1]<\/a><\/strong><\/span><\/p> Hz. Peygamberimizin Mescidinde ve Mektebinde \u00c7ocuklar Vard\u0131!<\/strong><\/span><\/p> Kutlu hicret yolculu\u011funun ard\u0131ndan Medine\u2019ye ula\u015fan Peygamber Efendimiz, devesi Kasva\u2019n\u0131n \u00e7\u00f6kt\u00fc\u011f\u00fc yere en yak\u0131n evde konaklayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 buyurmu\u015flard\u0131. Kasva\u2019n\u0131n \u00e7\u00f6kt\u00fc\u011f\u00fc bir arsada Peygamberimiz Mescid-i Nebev\u00ee\u2019yi in\u015fa etme karar\u0131 alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. \u00dczerinde hurma kurutulan bu arsa, Sehl ve S\u00fcheyl ad\u0131ndaki iki yetim \u00e7ocu\u011fun mal\u0131yd\u0131. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131 \u00e7a\u011f\u0131ran Allah Resul\u00fc, arsay\u0131 kendisine hibe etmek istemelerine ra\u011fmen onlara \u00f6demede bulunacak ve \u0130slam medeniyetinin kalbi olan Peygamber Mescidi, bu arsada kurulacakt\u0131. (Buh\u00e2r\u00ee, Men\u00e2k\u0131b\u00fc\u2019l-ens\u00e2r, 45) <\/strong><\/span><\/p> Elbette \u00e7ocuk \u00e7ocuklu\u011funu yapacak, hoplay\u0131p z\u0131playacak, ko\u015fup oynayacak, namaz esnas\u0131nda bile a\u011flay\u0131p baz\u0131 h\u0131r\u00e7\u0131nl\u0131klar yapacakt\u0131. Ama Resul-i Ekrem (SAV) b\u00fct\u00fcn bunlara hi\u00e7 k\u0131zmam\u0131\u015f, Onu \u00f6rnek alan Ashab\u2019dan da hi\u00e7 kimse \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 azarlamam\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Rahmet El\u00e7isi\u2019nin bu ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fc, sab\u0131rl\u0131 ve anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131 tutumu nedeniyle Asr-\u0131 Saadet boyunca \u00e7ocuklar Mescid-i Nebev\u00ee\u2019nin \u015ferefli cemaati aras\u0131nda yer alm\u0131\u015flard\u0131. (Buh\u00e2r\u00ee, Ez\u00e2n, 161; Eb\u00fb D\u00e2v\u00fbd, Sal\u00e2t, 112)<\/strong><\/span><\/p> G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn mahrum oldu\u011fu bu tavr\u0131n alt\u0131nda ku\u015fkusuz Peygamber Efendimizin ibadet terbiyesi konusunda izledi\u011fi duyarl\u0131l\u0131k ve e\u011fitim anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131 yatmaktayd\u0131. Resul\u00fcllah\u2019\u0131n e\u011fitim metodu <\/strong>emir, tembih ve ceza<\/em><\/strong> \u00fczerine de\u011fil; <\/strong>tatl\u0131 nasihat, \u00f6rneklik ve yumu\u015fakl\u0131k<\/em><\/strong> esas\u0131na dayal\u0131yd\u0131. Bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun, duydu\u011fundan ve okudu\u011fundan ziyade g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc benimsedi\u011fi ve anne babas\u0131n\u0131 model alarak kendi davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131na y\u00f6n verdi\u011fi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde, bir di\u011fer deyi\u015fle, \u201cHer do\u011fan f\u0131trat \u00fczere do\u011far. Sonra anne babas\u0131 onu Yahudi, Hristiyan ya da Mecusi yapar.\u201d<\/em> (Buh\u00e2r\u00ee, Tefs\u00eer (Kasas), 2; M\u00fcslim, Kader, 22) hadisi hat\u0131rland\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, bizzat mescitte ibadet eden ve b\u00fcy\u00fcklerini g\u00f6ren \u00e7ocu\u011fa maneviyat a\u015f\u0131s\u0131 yapman\u0131n ne kadar kolayla\u015faca\u011f\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131kt\u0131r. Ezan\u0131n birli\u011fe \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131n\u0131, tekbirin ve k\u0131raatin co\u015fkusunu, secdenin ve duan\u0131n huzurunu ya\u015fayan bir \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in mescitler, sohbetler, Ramazan ve Bayram ne\u015f\u2019eleri, bir ba\u015fka yerde edinemeyece\u011fi engin bir maneviyat tecr\u00fcbesinin en g\u00fczel adresleri konumundad\u0131r.<\/strong><\/span><\/p> Ashab-\u0131 Kiram\u2019\u0131n anlat\u0131mlar\u0131na g\u00f6re, bazen k\u0131z bazen de erkek torunlar\u0131n\u0131 omzuna alarak namaz k\u0131lan Peygamberimiz (Eb\u00fb D\u00e2v\u00fbd, Sal\u00e2t, 164, 165; Nes\u00e2\u00ee, Tatbik, 82) dahas\u0131 bu \u015fekilde imaml\u0131k yaparak (M\u00fcslim, Mes\u00e2cid, 43) bug\u00fcn hayal bile edemeyece\u011fimiz bir g\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fc ile inananlara \u00f6rneklik ve rehberlik yapm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Hz. Peygamber elbette annelerin mescide devam\u0131n\u0131n ancak \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131 da yanlar\u0131nda getirmeleriyle m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131n fark\u0131ndad\u0131r. Kad\u0131n\u0131 da \u00e7ocu\u011fu da e\u011fitim halkas\u0131n\u0131n ve ibadet ortam\u0131n\u0131n i\u00e7ine \u00e7eken bu \u00f6zel ve \u00f6rnek anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n belki de en \u00e7arp\u0131c\u0131 tavr\u0131n\u0131 yine Peygamberimiz ortaya koymu\u015flard\u0131r: \u201cUzun uzun k\u0131ld\u0131rma iste\u011fiyle namaza ba\u015fl\u0131yorum ki, o esnada bir \u00e7ocuk a\u011flamas\u0131 i\u015fitiyorum. Annesinin onun a\u011flamas\u0131ndan dolay\u0131 s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131ya d\u00fc\u015fece\u011fini bildi\u011fimden namaz\u0131 k\u0131sa tutuyorum.\u201d[2]<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p> B\u00fct\u00fcn bu sebeplerden dolay\u0131:<\/strong><\/span><\/p> Dinimizde, zaruret halinde \u00e7ocu\u011fu s\u0131rt\u0131na al\u0131p namaz k\u0131lmak caiz say\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Nitekim Peygamberimiz (SAV) de bu \u015fekilde namaz k\u0131ld\u0131rm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Ancak \u00e7ocu\u011fun \u00fczerinde necaset olmamas\u0131na dikkat edilmesi laz\u0131md\u0131r.<\/strong><\/span><\/p> Soru: \u0130slam’a g\u00f6re, \u00e7ocuk evlilikleri normal ve do\u011fal bir yakla\u015f\u0131m m\u0131d\u0131r?<\/strong><\/span><\/p> Elbette hay\u0131r ve asla! Nisa Suresi 6. ayeti, evlilikte \u201cR\u00dc\u015eD\u201d yani akli ve bedeni yeterlilik \u015fart\u0131n\u0131 koymaktad\u0131r. Bu R\u00fc\u015fd\u2019e ula\u015fma, akil-bali\u011f olma ya\u015f\u0131, baz\u0131 s\u0131cak iklim ve \u00fclkelerde 14, orta ku\u015fak b\u00f6lgelerde 16 ve so\u011fuk yerlerde 17-18 ya\u015f olarak saptanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/strong><\/span><\/p> \u00a0\u201cYetimleri, nik\u00e2ha eri\u015fecekleri b\u00fclu\u011f \u00e7a\u011f\u0131na kadar (bekleyip-e\u011fitip) deneyin; \u015fayet kendilerinde bir \u2018r\u00fc\u015fd\u2019 (fiziki ve akli olgunla\u015fma) g\u00f6rd\u00fcn\u00fcz m\u00fc, hemen onlara mallar\u0131n\u0131 (geri) verin. (R\u00fc\u015fde, yani bedeni ve beyni yeti\u015fkinli\u011fe eri\u015fmemi\u015f k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015ftaki k\u0131z ve erkek \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n evlendirilmesi caiz ve m\u00fcnasip de\u011fildir. Emanet ald\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z mallar\u0131n\u0131 da) B\u00fcy\u00fcyecekler (ve geri isteyecekler) diye israf ile \u00e7ar\u00e7abuk yemeyin. (Yetim mallar\u0131 konusunda) Zengin olan iffetli ve m\u00fcsta\u011fni olmaya (hak yemekten sak\u0131nmaya) \u00e7al\u0131\u015fs\u0131n, yoksul olan da art\u0131k ma\u2019ruf (ihtiyaca ve \u00f6rfe uygun) bir \u015fekilde yiyip harcas\u0131n. Mallar\u0131n\u0131 kendilerine (yetimlere geri) verdi\u011finiz zaman, onlara kar\u015f\u0131 \u015fahit bulundurun. (Emanet mallar\u0131n\u0131 korumay\u0131 \u00fcstlendi\u011finizde ve geri devretti\u011finizde resmi kay\u0131t tutun.) Hesap g\u00f6r\u00fcc\u00fc olarak Allah yeterlidir.\u201d<\/em> (Nisa: 6) ayeti evlilik ya\u015f\u0131nda R\u00dc\u015eD \u015fart\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6ne \u00e7\u0131karm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/strong><\/span><\/p> \u0130slam, F\u0131trat esasl\u0131d\u0131r, Vahye ba\u011fl\u0131 ak\u0131l ve vicdan dayanakl\u0131d\u0131r. \u015eimdi i\u00e7imizde, ilkokul, ortaokul hatta hen\u00fcz lise \u00e7a\u011f\u0131ndaki k\u0131zlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 gelin almak isteyenlere kar\u015f\u0131 tepkimiz ve tavr\u0131m\u0131z, f\u0131trat\u0131n (yani do\u011fal ve normal tavr\u0131n) icab\u0131d\u0131r!.. <\/strong><\/span><\/p> \u0130slam’da ergenlik ya\u015f\u0131na kadar olan s\u00fcre \u00e7ocukluk say\u0131lmakta ve \u00e7ocuklar her t\u00fcrl\u00fc ibadet ve mesuliyetten muaf tutulmaktad\u0131r. \u0130slam \u00e2limlerinin \u00e7o\u011funlu\u011funa g\u00f6re erkek ve k\u0131z 15 ya\u015f\u0131n\u0131 tamamlad\u0131ktan sonra <\/strong>m\u00fckellef<\/em><\/strong> say\u0131lmakta ve \u00e7ocuk s\u0131n\u0131f\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131kmaktad\u0131r. (Bak. \u0130bni Abidin. Redd\u00fcl – Muhtar c. 1 s. 408) \u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n anlay\u0131\u015f ve kavray\u0131\u015f durumuna g\u00f6re \u00e7ocukluktan itibaren imana, g\u00fczel ahl\u00e2ka, namaza ve sorumluluklara al\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lmas\u0131 ise elbette yararl\u0131d\u0131r. <\/strong><\/span><\/p> Hz. Aiy\u015fe Validemiz, Peygamber Efendimizle evlenirken 18 ya\u015f\u0131n\u0131 doldurmu\u015flard\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ablas\u0131 (ve Hz. Ebubekir’in k\u0131z\u0131) ESMA 100 ya\u015f\u0131na kadar ya\u015fam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. (Vefat\u0131 Hicri 73) Hicrette iken 28 ya\u015f\u0131ndalard\u0131. Hz. Aiy\u015fe Validemiz ise kendisinden 10 y\u0131l sonra do\u011fmu\u015flard\u0131. Yani Efendimizle evlenirken 18 ya\u015f\u0131ndalard\u0131.<\/strong><\/span><\/p> Siyasi Sorumluluk Bilinci<\/strong><\/span><\/p> R\u00fcyamda se\u00e7kin bir toplulu\u011fa \u015f\u00f6yle hitap ediyorum:<\/strong><\/span><\/p> \u201c\u00c7ok \u00f6nemli bir Zattan dinleyip \u00f6\u011frendi\u011fim ve herkese haber vermekle g\u00f6revlendirildi\u011fim ger\u00e7ek \u015fudur; <\/strong><\/span><\/p> \u201cBu \u00e7a\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda D\u00fcnyan\u0131n her taraf\u0131nda i\u015flenen b\u00fct\u00fcn k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fcklerin; sava\u015f, anar\u015fi ve zul\u00fcmlerin alt\u0131nda Siyonist Yahudi zihniyeti vard\u0131r ve onlar\u0131n ak\u0131l hocalar\u0131 da bizzat \u015feytand\u0131r. Siyonist Lobiler, kontrollerine ald\u0131klar\u0131 ABD-AB, Rusya ve \u00c7\u0130N gibi g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc devletler ve \u0130slam \u00dclkelerindeki \u0130\u015eB\u0130RL\u0130K\u00c7\u0130 y\u00f6netimler eliyle, bu zul\u00fcm ve s\u00f6m\u00fcr\u00fc saltanat\u0131n\u0131 y\u00fcr\u00fctmeyi ba\u015farmaktad\u0131r. \u0130\u015fbirlik\u00e7i iktidarlar, \u00fcstelik dindarl\u0131k rol\u00fcyle; FA\u0130Z, FUHU\u015e, KUMAR, DI\u015e BOR\u00c7 sarmal\u0131 ve l\u00fcks t\u00fcketim \u00e7\u0131lg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131 yan\u0131nda \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck ve demokrasi bahanesiyle e\u015fcinsellik sapk\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, porno yay\u0131nlar\u0131n\u0131, modernlik diye \u00e7\u0131plakl\u0131k modas\u0131n\u0131 yayg\u0131nla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131p; toplumu iman, ibadet ve ahl\u00e2ki istikametten uzakla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131p aile yap\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ve bizi millet yapan mayam\u0131z\u0131 yozla\u015ft\u0131rmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaktad\u0131r. Bu i\u015fbirlik\u00e7i y\u00f6netimler, \u015fahsi ikb\u00e2l ve iktidarlar\u0131 u\u011fruna milli ve manevi de\u011ferlerimizin, hem de dindarl\u0131k kisvesiyle talan ve tahribat\u0131na g\u00f6z yummaktad\u0131r. \u00d6yle ise dindar\u0131ndan kalender halk\u0131m\u0131za, sa\u011fc\u0131s\u0131ndan solcusuna, iz\u2019an ve vicdan sahibi herkese haber verip uyar ki, bu i\u015fbirlik\u00e7i iktidarlara oy verip destek \u00e7\u0131kmak, \u00fclkemizdeki ve yery\u00fcz\u00fcndeki b\u00fct\u00fcn zul\u00fcm ve k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fcklere dolayl\u0131 ortak olmaktad\u0131r ve tabi vebali de o denli a\u011f\u0131rd\u0131r!..\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p> Soru: M\u00fcsl\u00fcman, muttaki, hatta tarikat ve cemaat ehli bir\u00e7ok karde\u015fimiz b\u00e2t\u0131l sistemleri ve bozuk y\u00f6netimleri destekliyorlar, bu \u00e7eli\u015fkiyi nas\u0131l yorumlamal\u0131y\u0131z? <\/strong><\/span><\/p> \u00d6ncelikle, bu karde\u015flerimizin: <\/strong><\/span><\/p> 1- \u0130nsan olarak birtak\u0131m temel haklar\u0131na ve onurlar\u0131na sayg\u0131 duymam\u0131z laz\u0131md\u0131r.<\/strong><\/span><\/p> 2- Bu kimseler M\u00fcsl\u00fcman ise, din karde\u015flerimiz olarak, onlarla uhuvvet ve muhabbet ba\u011f\u0131m\u0131za sahip \u00e7\u0131k\u0131lmal\u0131 ve ona g\u00f6re davranmal\u0131d\u0131r. <\/strong><\/span><\/p> 3- Bu karde\u015flerimiz, \u00fcstelik takva, tarikat ve hay\u0131rl\u0131 hizmet erbab\u0131 iseler, onlar\u0131n elbette \u00f6zel hat\u0131r\u0131 say\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r. <\/strong><\/span><\/p> 4- Ancak siyasi tercihlerinde ve elbette birtak\u0131m mazeret ve gerek\u00e7elerle b\u00e2t\u0131l zihniyetleri ve i\u015fbirlik\u00e7i h\u00fck\u00fcmetleri sahiplenip savunuyorlarsa, onlara m\u00fcnasip \u015fekilde, \u015fu ayet-i kerimeler hat\u0131rlat\u0131lmal\u0131, ancak k\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 ve d\u0131\u015flay\u0131c\u0131 tav\u0131rlardan mutlaka sak\u0131nmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/strong><\/span><\/p> Ahirette hain y\u00f6neticiler, halk kesiminden neden ka\u00e7maya \u00e7al\u0131\u015facaklard\u0131r:<\/strong><\/span><\/p> \u201c(Hesap g\u00fcn\u00fcnde) Azab\u0131 (ve hak ettikleri cezay\u0131) g\u00f6rd\u00fcklerinde, (d\u00fcnyada iken) kendilerine t\u00e2bi olunan (ama Hakka ve halk\u0131na h\u0131yanette bulunan lider ve \u00f6nc\u00fc) kimseler, (maddi ve manevi va\u2019adlere aldanarak) pe\u015flerine tak\u0131lan kesimlerden uzakla\u015f\u0131p ka\u00e7maya (\u00e7al\u0131\u015facak) ve aralar\u0131ndaki b\u00fct\u00fcn ba\u011flar ve tan\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131klar yokmu\u015f ve kopmu\u015f gibi davranacaklard\u0131r.<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p> Bunun \u00fczerine (b\u00f6ylesi zalim ve hain y\u00f6neticilere) uyanlar: \u2018Ke\u015fke bir kere daha (d\u00fcnyaya d\u00f6nme) f\u0131rsat\u0131 verilseydi de, (orada bizi aldat\u0131p,) \u015fimdi b\u0131rak\u0131p ka\u00e7t\u0131klar\u0131 gibi, biz de onlardan uzakla\u015f\u0131p (Hakk el\u00e7ilere, adil ve asil davet\u00e7ilere destek \u00e7\u0131ksayd\u0131k!)\u2019 diye (pi\u015fmanl\u0131k duyacaklard\u0131r). B\u00f6ylece Allah onlara (zalim ve hain y\u00f6neticilere ve pe\u015flerinden gidenlere; hayatlar\u0131 boyunca) i\u015fledikleri b\u00fct\u00fcn amellerini, (ibadet ve hizmetlerini) \u00e7ok derin bir hasretlik ve pi\u015fmanl\u0131k olarak g\u00f6sterecek (milyonlarca insan\u0131n ezilmesine ve s\u00f6m\u00fcr\u00fclmesine vesile olduklar\u0131 i\u00e7in, yapt\u0131klar\u0131 hay\u0131r ve hasenatlar\u0131na ra\u011fmen cehenneme girecekler)dir ve onlar art\u0131k ate\u015ften \u00e7\u0131kamayacaklard\u0131r.\u201d <\/em><\/strong>(Bakara: 166-167)<\/strong><\/span><\/p> Siyasi \u015fuur ve sorumluluk ta\u015f\u0131mayanlar, ahirette pi\u015fman ve peri\u015fan olacaklard\u0131r!<\/strong><\/span><\/p> \u201c(D\u00fcnyada Siyonist Yahudiler gibi \u011fadaba u\u011fram\u0131\u015f ve emperyalist Hristiyanlar gibi sap\u0131tm\u0131\u015f zihniyet ve \u015fahsiyetlere ve bunlar\u0131n i\u015fbirlik\u00e7ilerine ve di\u011fer t\u00fcm zalim m\u00fcnkir ve m\u00fc\u015friklere uyarak, \u0130slam\u2019\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fcnden ve Kur\u2019an\u2019\u0131n izinden uzakla\u015farak, do\u011frudan veya dolayl\u0131 bi\u00e7imde k\u00fcfre ve k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fc\u011fe bula\u015fanlar\u0131n, cehennemde) Y\u00fczlerinin (ve t\u00fcm bedenlerinin) ate\u015fte \u00e7evrildi\u011fi g\u00fcn: \u2018Eyvahlar-yaz\u0131klar olsun bize! Ke\u015fke Allah\u2019a itaat etseydik. Ve Resul\u00fcne uyup pe\u015fine gitseydik\u2019 diyerek (pi\u015fmanl\u0131k duyacaklard\u0131r).<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p> Ve diyecekler ki: \u2018Ey Rabbimiz! Ger\u00e7ekten biz \u2018Sadat\u2019\u0131m\u0131za (baz\u0131 tarikat ve maneviyat rehberlerimize ve hoca efendilerimize) ve \u2018K\u00fcbera\u2019m\u0131za (devlet, siyaset ve servet b\u00fcy\u00fcklerimize aldan\u0131p haks\u0131z ve ahl\u00e2ks\u0131z i\u015flerine) itaat ettik. (Bu iki s\u0131n\u0131f\u0131n vaazlar\u0131na ve va\u2019adlerine inan\u0131p pe\u015flerinden gittik. Onlar ise bizim iyi niyetimizi ve teslimiyetimizi istismar edip, bizleri k\u00e2fir ve zalim sistemlere pe\u015fke\u015f \u00e7ekip aldatm\u0131\u015flard\u0131.) B\u00f6ylece onlar bizi Hakk yoldan sapt\u0131rm\u0131\u015flard\u0131.<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p> Ey Rabbimiz! \u015eimdi onlara (talebelerini ve t\u00e2bilerini hain ve zalim g\u00fc\u00e7lere pe\u015fke\u015f \u00e7eken hoca efendilere ve d\u00fcnyas\u0131 i\u00e7in davas\u0131ndan d\u00f6nen siyaset\u00e7ilere, d\u00fcnyam\u0131z\u0131 ve ahiretimizi mahveden bu din ve devlet b\u00fcy\u00fcklerimize, bize verece\u011fin) azaptan iki kat\u0131n\u0131 ver ve onlar\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fck bir lanetle kahret\u2019 (deyip kurtulmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015facaklard\u0131r).\u201d <\/em><\/strong>(Ahz\u00e2b: 66-67-68)<\/strong><\/span><\/p> \u0130ktidarlarla halk tabakas\u0131n\u0131n, ahirette birbirini su\u00e7lamalar\u0131:<\/strong><\/span><\/p> \u201c(\u2026 \u015eeytani inatlar\u0131 ve bozuk f\u0131tratlar\u0131 y\u00fcz\u00fcnden ak\u0131llar\u0131 yatt\u0131\u011f\u0131 halde, bile bile Kur\u2019an\u2019\u0131n adalet h\u00fck\u00fcmlerini ve ahl\u00e2ki prensiplerini ink\u00e2r ve itiraz eden) Zalimleri, Sen Rableri huzurunda (yapt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n hesab\u0131n\u0131 vermek \u00fczere) tutuklanm\u0131\u015f vaziyette (iken) e\u011fer bir g\u00f6rsen! (Ki o zalimler: a- \u0130mk\u00e2n ve iktidarlar\u0131yla kibirlenip b\u00fcy\u00fckl\u00fck taslayan y\u00f6netici tabakas\u0131, b- Ezilen, s\u00f6m\u00fcr\u00fclen ve sindirilerek zay\u0131f ve \u00e7aresiz b\u0131rak\u0131lan, ama gaflet ve cehaletle yine de zalim y\u00f6neticilerin pe\u015fine tak\u0131lan halk tabakas\u0131 olarak iki k\u0131s\u0131md\u0131r.) Bunlar birbirlerini (su\u00e7lay\u0131p) kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 s\u00f6z d\u00f6nd\u00fcr\u00fcp laf dala\u015f\u0131 yaparak; m\u00fcstaz\u2019af zalimler, m\u00fcstekbir zalimlere derler ki; \u2018E\u011fer siz (ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131zda) olmasayd\u0131n\u0131z (iktidar konumunda iken adil ve ahl\u00e2ki esaslara g\u00f6re davransayd\u0131n\u0131z,) herhalde bizler de (Hakka inanan ve hayra uyan) m\u00fc\u2019min kimseler olacakt\u0131k. (Hain g\u00fc\u00e7lerden ve \u015feytani \u00e7evrelerden de destek alarak; faiz ve s\u00f6m\u00fcr\u00fcye dayanan ekonomik sisteminizle\u2026 Ahl\u00e2ki ve manevi de\u011ferlerden yoksun e\u011fitim d\u00fczeninizle\u2026 Bask\u0131c\u0131 ve barbar y\u00f6netim ve y\u00f6ntemlerinizle bizleri yoldan \u00e7\u0131kard\u0131n\u0131z. Ey Rabbimiz, as\u0131l su\u00e7lu ve sorumlu olan bu gaddar ve hilek\u00e2r idarecilerimizdir!\u2019 deyip kurtulmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015facaklard\u0131r.)<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p> (Bunun \u00fczerine b\u00fcy\u00fckl\u00fck taslayan) M\u00fcstekbir (ve m\u00fccrim y\u00f6neticiler), m\u00fcstaz\u2019af (zay\u0131f say\u0131lan halk kesimine d\u00f6nerek) \u015f\u00f6yle diyecekler: \u2018Size hidayet (rehberi Kur\u2019an ve hakikat \u00f6nderi Peygamber) geldikten (Hakka ve hayra davet edildikten) sonra, biz mi sizi ondan (\u0130slam\u2019\u0131n adalet nizam\u0131ndan zorla) \u00e7evirip al\u0131koyduk? Hay\u0131r! (Fikirlerimizin ve fiillerimizin b\u00e2t\u0131l ve bozuk oldu\u011funu bile bile, hidayet yolunu de\u011fil, bizi tercih edip se\u00e7tiniz, sevdiniz ve desteklediniz…) Asl\u0131nda siz m\u00fccrim (su\u00e7lu ve hain) kimselerdiniz!..\u2019<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p> (Bu sefer zay\u0131f b\u0131rak\u0131lan ve bask\u0131 alt\u0131nda tutulan) M\u00fcstaz\u2019af (halk kesimi, imk\u00e2n ve iktidar sahibi olan kibirli ve yetkili) m\u00fcstekbirlere (d\u00f6n\u00fcp) diyecekler ki: \u2018Hay\u0131r! Sizler gece-g\u00fcnd\u00fcz (bas\u0131n-yay\u0131n, televizyon ve internet yoluyla, kanun ve karakol zoruyla) hileli (ve tehlikeli) d\u00fczenler kurup, bizim Allah\u2019\u0131 (Kitab\u0131n\u0131 ve baz\u0131 kanunlar\u0131n\u0131 terk ve) ink\u00e2r etmemizi, (haks\u0131zl\u0131k ve ahl\u00e2ks\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa y\u00f6nelmemizi ve hatta, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 yozla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131p ve sizleri putla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131p) O\u2019na e\u015f ve denk (kimseler) k\u0131lmam\u0131z\u0131 emrediyor (devlet ve h\u00fck\u00fcmet g\u00fcc\u00fcyle bizi sapk\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa s\u00fcr\u00fckl\u00fcyor)dunuz!.. (Evet, zul\u00fcm ve zorbal\u0131\u011fa kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kan \u015fuurlu ve onurlu bir M\u00fcsl\u00fcman olmam\u0131z\u0131 istemiyordunuz.\u2019 diyeceklerdir. \u0130\u015fte bu m\u00fcstekbir y\u00f6neticiler ve m\u00fcstaz\u2019af halk kesimleri ortak olduklar\u0131 zul\u00fcm ve g\u00fcnahlar\u0131n\u0131n kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 olarak girecekleri cehennem) Azab\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rd\u00fcklerinde; pi\u015fmanl\u0131k (ve peri\u015fanl\u0131k)lar\u0131n\u0131 i\u00e7lerine atarlar. (Sonsuz ve kahredici bir nedamet ve hasret i\u00e7inde k\u0131vran\u0131p dururlar.) Biz de ink\u00e2r (ve isyan eden zalimlerin ve onlar\u0131 se\u00e7ip seven hainlerin) boyunlar\u0131na halkalar ge\u00e7irip (cehenneme sokar\u0131z. B\u00f6ylece d\u00fcnyadaki k\u00fcf\u00fcr ve k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fcklerinin, haks\u0131zl\u0131k ve ahl\u00e2ks\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 desteklemelerinin kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 olarak hak ettikleri cezaya \u00e7arpt\u0131r\u0131r\u0131z. \u0130\u015fte bu \u0130lahi adaletin gere\u011fidir.) Yoksa onlar (d\u00fcnyada) yapt\u0131klar\u0131ndan ba\u015fkas\u0131yla m\u0131 cezaland\u0131r\u0131lacaklard\u0131? (Hay\u0131r, herkes ak\u0131betini ve ahiretini kendi eliyle haz\u0131rlamakta, k\u00fcfre ve zulme taraf olanlar cehennemi, \u0130slamiyet ve istikamete t\u00e2bi olanlar ise cenneti elde etmektedir.)\u201d<\/em><\/strong> (Sebe\u2019: 31-32-33)<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t (\u00dcstad Ahmet Akg\u00fcl\u2019\u00fcn Sohbet Notlar\u0131) \u0130SLAM\u2019DA \u00c7OCUK E\u011e\u0130T\u0130M\u0130 VE S\u0130YAS\u0130 SORUMLULUK B\u0130L\u0130NC\u0130 Soru: \u0130slam’da \u00c7ocuk Haklar\u0131 ve Terbiye-E\u011fitim kurallar\u0131yla ilgili bizleri ayd\u0131nlat\u0131r m\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z? \u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z Rabbimizin bizlere en \u00f6nemli nimeti ve emaneti say\u0131l\u0131r. Hz. Peygamber Efendimiz \u00e7ocuklara devaml\u0131 \u015fefkat ve merhametle yakla\u015fm\u0131\u015f, onlar\u0131n en \u00f6nemli g\u0131dalar\u0131n\u0131n sevgi ve ilgi oldu\u011funu bizlere fiilen \u00f6\u011fretmi\u015f ve \u00f6\u011f\u00fctlemi\u015f bulunmaktad\u0131r. 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