\u00a0 <\/p>\n
NEZAKET;"EFEND\u0130'lik ve MEDEN\u0130'liktir!"<\/strong> <\/p>\n Her insana ve \u00f6zellikle M\u00fcsl\u00fcman'a yak\u0131\u015fan; incelikli, imrenilir, sevilir ve ho\u015f ge\u00e7inilir biri olmakt\u0131r. <\/p>\n Kaba-saba, softa, yobaz ve yontulmam\u0131\u015f tipler, ne kendileri mutlu olabilir, ne de ba\u015fkalar\u0131nda rahat ve huzur b\u0131rak\u0131r. <\/p>\n Evet, nezaket; "Hay\u0131rl\u0131 ve yararl\u0131 insan" olman\u0131n ve olgunla\u015fman\u0131n ilk \u015fart\u0131d\u0131r. <\/p>\n Nezaket: Herkese sayg\u0131l\u0131 ve seviyeli yakla\u015fmak… \u0130tici ve incitici s\u00f6z ve tav\u0131rlardan sak\u0131nmak… \u00c7evresini k\u0131r\u0131p d\u00f6ken, herkesi \u00fczen ve \u00fcrk\u00fcten de\u011fil, yap\u0131c\u0131, yard\u0131mc\u0131 ve a\u011f\u0131rba\u015fl\u0131 davranmak… Alayc\u0131l\u0131ktan ve k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr\u00fcc\u00fc \u015fakalardan uzak durmak… \u00d6zetle; her durumda ve herkese kar\u015f\u0131, efendi, edepli ve erdemli bir tutum tak\u0131nmakt\u0131r. <\/p>\n \u00a0 <\/p>\n Nezaket; <\/p>\n a-Nezafet<\/strong>:V\u00fccut, elbise, etraf ve e\u015fya temizli\u011fi <\/p>\n b-Nezahet<\/strong>: Ahlak temizli\u011fi, anlay\u0131\u015f ve davran\u0131\u015f g\u00fczelli\u011fi ile daha da olgunla\u015f\u0131r. <\/p>\n Ve hele dava tebli\u011fcileri ve te\u015fkilat e\u011fitimcileri i\u00e7in nezaket, b\u00fcy\u00fck bir \u00f6nem ve \u00f6ncelik kazan\u0131r. <\/p>\n Ve tabi, nezaket; kibarl\u0131k budalal\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve \u00e7\u0131tk\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131m davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 san\u0131lmamal\u0131d\u0131r. <\/p>\n \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc , bu t\u00fcr yapmac\u0131k ve g\u0131c\u0131k hareketler, sempati yerine antipati toplayacakt\u0131r.Halbuki nezaket; i\u00e7tenlikle g\u00fcler y\u00fczl\u00fc, al\u00e7ak g\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fc, ama a\u011f\u0131r ba\u015fl\u0131, oturakl\u0131 ve \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcl\u00fc olmakt\u0131r. <\/p>\n \u015eimdi, nezaketin gerektirdi\u011fi ba\u015fl\u0131ca olgun ve uygun davran\u0131\u015f bi\u00e7imlerini ve \u00f6nemli ahlak prensiplerini s\u0131ralayal\u0131m: <\/p>\n A-Zarar verme!<\/strong> <\/p>\n Toplumun ve davan\u0131n maslahat\u0131 ve \u0130slam'\u0131n m\u00fcsadesi d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda; hi\u00e7 kimseye ve hi\u00e7bir \u015fekilde, zarar verecek ve s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131ya d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrecek s\u00f6z konu\u015fma, g\u0131ybetini yapma, yaz\u0131 yazma, imada bulunma, hile ve haks\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa kalk\u0131\u015fma… <\/p>\n "Ne zarar dokundurmaya ne de (kendisi ve \u00e7evresi) zarara u\u011framaya(izin) yoktur"[1]<\/a>\u00a0 hadisini unutma… <\/p>\n B-\u00d6zel hayatla ve gizli ay\u0131plarla ilgilenme!..<\/strong> <\/p>\n Kendi kusurlar\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fczeltmeye ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n fark\u0131na vard\u0131\u011f\u0131n yanl\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131, sadece ve ancak onlara s\u00f6yleyip sak\u0131nd\u0131rarak dizginlemeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f!.. <\/p>\n "\u0130yi bir M\u00fcsl\u00fcman, kendisini ilgilendirmeyen i\u015fleri terk eder"[2]<\/a>\u00a0 hadisini d\u00fcstur edin… Gevezelik, m\u00fcnasebetsizlik, laubalilik gibi huylardan vazge\u00e7! <\/p>\n C-Sevindir ve \u00fcmitlendir.\u00dczme ve k\u0131\u015fk\u0131rt\u0131p germe!..<\/strong> <\/p>\n \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc "Kim d\u00fcnyada bir m\u00fcminin \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fc giderirse, Allah ta, ahirette onun bir \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fc giderecektir"[3]<\/a>\u00a0 <\/p>\n Havay\u0131 gev\u015feten ol, gerginle\u015ftiren olma! <\/p>\n \u00c7-As\u0131k surat ve k\u0131zg\u0131n tav\u0131r g\u00f6sterme!<\/strong> <\/p>\n \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc s\u00f6zlerin do\u011fru ve g\u00fczel de olsa y\u00fcz hatlar\u0131n ve \u00f6fkeli tav\u0131rlar\u0131n, muhataplar\u0131n\u0131 k\u0131racak ve korkutacakt\u0131r.Uzla\u015ft\u0131rmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rken, uzakla\u015ft\u0131racakt\u0131r. <\/p>\n D-Y\u00fcksek sesle ve sertlikle s\u00f6yleme!<\/strong> <\/p>\n H\u0131r\u00e7\u0131n, k\u0131zg\u0131n bir tav\u0131rla ve y\u00fcksek bir ses tonuyla yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n nasihat ve tebli\u011fat ters tepki yapacakt\u0131r. <\/p>\n E-Kesin ve keskin ifadelerle tersleme!<\/strong> <\/p>\n "Seninle b\u00fct\u00fcn alakam\u0131 kestim!", "Senden sonsuza dek k\u00fcst\u00fcm!", "Sen asla adam olmazs\u0131n!", "Anla\u015f\u0131ld\u0131 sen bu i\u015fi ba\u015faramazs\u0131n!", "Arkada\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z buraya kadar, yolumuz ayr\u0131ld\u0131!" <\/p>\n gibi s\u00f6zler, hem dostluklar\u0131 bozacak hem de insanlar\u0131n kendine \u00f6zg\u00fcvenini y\u0131kacakt\u0131r. <\/p>\n F-Mahalli \u015fiveleri ve argo kelimeleri al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k haline getirme!..<\/strong> <\/p>\n Bu senin, basit ve hafif bir kimse oldu\u011fun imaj\u0131n\u0131 do\u011furacak, a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131\u011f\u0131n ve sayg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n y\u0131pranacakt\u0131r. <\/p>\n Ve hele, ya\u015f ve makam itibariyle senden b\u00fcy\u00fck insanlarla… Hocalar\u0131n ve \u00fcstatlar\u0131nla… Lider ve ba\u015fkanlar\u0131nla; <\/p>\n Sululuk yapmaya, \u015fakala\u015fmaya, gereksiz lafa kar\u0131\u015fmaya, ay\u0131p olaylar ve f\u0131kralar anlatmaya kalk\u0131\u015fmay\u0131n\u0131z.Onlar bazen sizinle latife yapsalar bile, \u015f\u0131mar\u0131p kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k vermeyiniz ve \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcy\u00fc ka\u00e7\u0131rmay\u0131n\u0131z! <\/p>\n \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc haddini a\u015fan, muhatab\u0131n\u0131n sabr\u0131n\u0131 ta\u015f\u0131racakt\u0131r. <\/p>\n Medeni cesaret g\u00fczel ve gereklidir.Ama m\u00fcnasebetsizlik yarars\u0131z ve yak\u0131\u015f\u0131ks\u0131zd\u0131r. <\/p>\n G-Yanl\u0131\u015flar\u0131 tenkit ve tekdir (uyar\u0131) yapabilmen i\u00e7in, \u00f6nce do\u011frular\u0131 takdir etmen gerekti\u011fini g\u00f6z ard\u0131 etme!<\/strong> <\/p>\n Bir insan\u0131n olumlu ve onurlu taraf\u0131n\u0131 tebrik ve takdir ederseniz, onun yanl\u0131\u015f ve yarars\u0131z tav\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 tenkit etti\u011finiz zaman da size kulak asacak ve hakl\u0131 bulacakt\u0131r. <\/p>\n \u011e-Devaml\u0131 g\u00fcven ver ve g\u00fcl\u00fcmse!..<\/strong> <\/p>\n G\u00fcler y\u00fcz ve tatl\u0131 s\u00f6z, ba\u015fl\u0131 ba\u015f\u0131na bir hay\u0131r, huzur ve hizmet arac\u0131d\u0131r. <\/p>\n Hatta "Karde\u015flerinize g\u00fcl\u00fcmsemeniz bir sadakad\u0131r"[4]<\/a>\u00a0 <\/p>\n Unutma:G\u00fcler y\u00fcz ve tatl\u0131 s\u00f6z, nice kapal\u0131 kap\u0131lar\u0131 a\u00e7an ve k\u0131zg\u0131n kalpleri ferahlatan s\u0131rl\u0131 bir anahtard\u0131r.Somurtkan y\u00fcz ve ac\u0131 s\u00f6z ise, \u015feytan\u0131n silah\u0131d\u0131r ve ara bozand\u0131r. <\/p>\n H-Kendini tan\u0131tmadan s\u00f6ze girme!<\/strong> <\/p>\n Bir toplant\u0131da veya telefonda, k\u0131sa ve \u00f6z olarak kendini tan\u0131tmadan ve muhataplar\u0131n kimli\u011fini ve ne istedi\u011fini anlamadan konu\u015fmak, hem israft\u0131r, hem de tamiri zor tahribatlara yol a\u00e7acakt\u0131r. <\/p>\n I-\u0130lgi ve iltifat\u0131 esirgeme!..<\/strong> <\/p>\n "Sizi takdir ediyorum", "\u015eu tavr\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 \u00e7ok be\u011feniyorum", "Sizinle gurur duyuyorum", "B\u00f6yle bir dostlu\u011fumuz oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in kendimi \u015fansl\u0131 say\u0131yorum", "\u015eu ahlak\u0131n\u0131za imreniyorum" gibi iltifatlar insanlar\u0131 hem onurland\u0131racak, hem umutland\u0131racak, hem de hay\u0131rl\u0131 hizmetlere bir nevi te\u015fvik olacakt\u0131r. <\/p>\n \u0130-Rica et, emir verme!..<\/strong> <\/p>\n Senden k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcklere ve stat\u00fcs\u00fc d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcklere bile "Bizahmet bakarm\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z!" "L\u00fctfen \u015f\u00f6yle yaparm\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z!" gibi yakla\u015f\u0131mlardan insanlar ho\u015flanmakta, gururlar\u0131 ok\u015fanmakta ve daha bir istekle \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaktad\u0131r. <\/p>\n J-Kelimelerin sivri ve sinirli olan\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fil, yuvarlak ve yumu\u015fak olan\u0131n\u0131 se\u00e7!<\/strong> <\/p>\n Bir meram\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 anlatmak ve bir hatay\u0131 hat\u0131rlatmak i\u00e7in ayn\u0131 anlama gelen bir \u00e7ok kelime ve c\u00fcmle bulunmaktad\u0131r.Bunlar\u0131n bir k\u0131sm\u0131 "di\u015fi" bir k\u0131sm\u0131 "erkek"tir.Baz\u0131s\u0131 "sivri" baz\u0131s\u0131 "sevimli"dir. <\/p>\n "Sen \u00e7ok pis ve kirli birisin" yerine "Temizli\u011fine daha \u00e7ok dikkat etmelisin" <\/p>\n "Hep bo\u015f konu\u015fuyor, kafam\u0131z\u0131 \u015fi\u015firiyorsun" yerine "Haz\u0131rl\u0131kl\u0131 ve k\u0131sa konu\u015fsan daha iyi anlat\u0131yorsun" <\/p>\n "Sen de, hi\u00e7 Allah korkusu ve vicdan duygusu yok mu?" yerine "Bu davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n su\u00e7u ve sorumlulu\u011fu \u00e7ok b\u00fcy\u00fckt\u00fcr" <\/p>\n "Sen adam olmazs\u0131n, hi\u00e7bir i\u015fe yaramazs\u0131n" yerine "Daha \u00e7ok \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmal\u0131, hay\u0131rl\u0131 ve ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 gayretlerini art\u0131rmal\u0131s\u0131n.." gibi s\u00f6zler daha yap\u0131c\u0131 ve yararl\u0131d\u0131r. "Allah belan\u0131 versin!" yerine\u00a0 "Allah \u0131slah eylesin" diye dua yapmal\u0131d\u0131r. <\/p>\n K-En k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck iyilik ve ikrama bile te\u015fekk\u00fcr et!<\/strong> <\/p>\n Te\u015fekk\u00fcrs\u00fczl\u00fck, nank\u00f6rl\u00fck say\u0131l\u0131r.Te\u015fekk\u00fcr, hizmet heyecan\u0131n\u0131 art\u0131r\u0131r.Bir bardak su getirene, otob\u00fcste yer verene, seni \u00f6ne ge\u00e7irene, resmi dairede i\u015fini g\u00f6rene te\u015fekk\u00fcr et. <\/p>\n L-Sa\u00e7ma da bulsan, dinle;<\/strong> <\/p>\n \u0130nsanlar\u0131n s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc kesmek ve susturmak, laf\u0131n\u0131 a\u011fz\u0131na t\u0131kamak, meram\u0131n\u0131 anlatmas\u0131na f\u0131rsat tan\u0131mamak, hem zul\u00fcmd\u00fcr hem de nezakete ayk\u0131r\u0131d\u0131r… Dinlememek anlamamakt\u0131r.Anlamamak, yanl\u0131\u015f tan\u0131makt\u0131r… Yanl\u0131\u015f tan\u0131mak ise; zararl\u0131 tedavi\u00a0 uygulamakt\u0131r. <\/p>\n M- "Biz" de, "Ben" deme!..<\/strong> <\/p>\n "Ben" kelimesini kullanma! Bencillik yapma, bilgi\u00e7lik taslama! "Ben" ka\u00e7\u0131r\u0131c\u0131, "Biz" kapsay\u0131c\u0131 ve kucaklay\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r. <\/p>\n "Ben" demek, b\u00f6b\u00fcrlenmek, kibirlenmek alametidir. <\/p>\n "Biz" ise tevazu, terbiye ve b\u00f6l\u00fc\u015fmek i\u015faretidir. <\/p>\n N-\u0130yimser ol, k\u00f6t\u00fc g\u00f6rme!..<\/strong> <\/p>\n \u0130nsanlar\u0131n sald\u0131rgan ve hakarete varan s\u00f6z ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 hemen \u00fczerine alma… \u015e\u00fcpheli tav\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 k\u00f6t\u00fcye de\u011fil, iyiye yor.Yanl\u0131\u015f anlamalar ve y\u00f6nlendirmeler sonucu b\u00f6yle davrand\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn.Alttan al ve metin ol.Kendine g\u00fcvenen ve olgun davranan hakl\u0131 ve karl\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kacakt\u0131r.Meleklerin insano\u011flunun yarat\u0131lmas\u0131yla ilgili "orada fesat \u00e7\u0131karacak ve kan ak\u0131tacak kimse mi yaratacaks\u0131n?"[5]<\/a> \u00a0\u015feklindeki k\u00f6t\u00fcmser yakla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131 Allah taraf\u0131ndan k\u0131nanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. <\/p>\n O-K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmseme, \u00f6nemse!<\/strong> <\/p>\n Hi\u00e7 kimseyi ve hi\u00e7bir \u015fekilde hor g\u00f6rme, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrme!..Bu onlar\u0131n d\u00fc\u015fmanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve intikam h\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131 kam\u00e7\u0131lar… Senin de nefsini ve \u015feytan\u0131n\u0131 azg\u0131nla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r. <\/p>\n \u00c7ocuklar\u0131na, yak\u0131nlar\u0131na ve muhataplar\u0131na "\u00f6nemli, gerekli ve de\u011ferli" olduklar\u0131n\u0131 ve sevilip say\u0131ld\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 hissettir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ba\u015fkalar\u0131na de\u011fer verdi\u011fin kadar\u00a0 \u015feref bulacak ve g\u00fcven kazanacaks\u0131n. <\/p>\n \u00d6-\u0130lgi ve ileti\u015fimi seyrekle\u015ftirebilirsin…Ama \u00fcmit ve alakay\u0131 k\u00f6kten kesme!..<\/strong> <\/p>\n \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc d\u0131\u015flad\u0131klar\u0131n potansiyel d\u00fc\u015fmanlar\u0131n olacakt\u0131r.\u0130nsanlar\u0131n her birinin farkl\u0131 kabiliyet ve marifetleri vard\u0131r.Onlardan alakay\u0131 kesmek, bu kabiliyetlerini katletmek anlam\u0131ndad\u0131r. <\/p>\n "\u0130nsanlar (tabiatlar\u0131 itibar\u0131yla) madenler gibidir.Cahiliye d\u00f6neminde iyi (ve yararl\u0131) olanlar, \u0130slam'a d\u00f6n\u00fcnce de yararl\u0131 olacakt\u0131r.Yeter ki ger\u00e7e\u011fi anlas\u0131n ve fark\u0131na vars\u0131nlar"[6]<\/a>\u00a0 hadisini unutmamal\u0131d\u0131r. <\/p>\n P-Yerilmekten ve ele\u015ftirilmekten \u00e7ekinme!..<\/strong> <\/p>\n Baz\u0131 hatalar\u0131n veya yanl\u0131\u015f anla\u015f\u0131lmalar\u0131n hat\u0131rlat\u0131l\u0131nca, hemen k\u0131z\u0131p k\u00f6p\u00fcrme… Tenkitten ho\u015flanmayan tekam\u00fcle ula\u015famaz… <\/p>\n Hem baz\u0131 yanl\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131, hem de insanlar\u0131n sana bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenmen ve d\u00fczeltmen i\u00e7in; ele\u015ftiriye a\u00e7\u0131k ol.. Tenkit edenlere te\u015fekk\u00fcr et ve ho\u015f g\u00f6r!.. <\/p>\n R-Ara\u00e7 kurumlar\u0131 kutsalla\u015ft\u0131rma,<\/strong> <\/p>\n Ama\u00e7 kavramlar\u0131 sahiplen!<\/strong> <\/p>\n "meslek, me\u015frep, parti, dernek" gibi hizmet kurumlar\u0131n\u0131 haddinden fazla y\u00fcceltmek, ara\u00e7lar\u0131 ama\u00e7 haline getirmek ve insanlar\u0131 bu kategoride de\u011ferlendirmek yanl\u0131\u015ft\u0131r ve da\u011f\u0131t\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r. <\/p>\n Ortak ve mutlak de\u011ferler etraf\u0131nda bulu\u015fmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmal\u0131d\u0131r. <\/p>\n "Sizin, Allah'tan ba\u015fka ibadet (ve hizmet) ettikleriniz, birtak\u0131m (kendi takt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z) isimlerden, (amblem ve alametlerden) ibaret \u015feylerdir ki, onlar\u0131 siz ve atalar\u0131n\u0131z uydurmu\u015ftur"[7]<\/a>\u00a0 ayetinin ikaz\u0131na kulak asmal\u0131d\u0131r. <\/p>\n S-Hizmet ve h\u00fcrmet bekleme!..<\/strong> <\/p>\n Bunlar insanlardan beklenmez… Onlar seni h\u00fcrmet ve muhabbete lay\u0131k g\u00f6r\u00fcrse, kendili\u011finden yapar.. <\/p>\n Sen herkese ve kendi derecesinde h\u00fcrmet ve hizmet et ki, k\u0131ymet ve faziletin arts\u0131n! \u0130nsanlar\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcnden kalkmak, yer a\u00e7mak, \u00f6ne almak ve \u00f6ncelik tan\u0131mak\u00a0 bir sayg\u0131d\u0131r. <\/p>\n "Bir kavmin Efendisi, onlara hizmet edendir"[8]<\/a> \u00a0hadisi, hizmet edenin h\u00fcrmet g\u00f6rece\u011fini ve liderli\u011fe y\u00fckseltilece\u011fini anlatmaktad\u0131r. <\/p>\n \u015e-"Her madenden kolye, her ademden \u015f\u00f6valye" olur zannetme!<\/strong> <\/p>\n "\u0130nsanlar (y\u00fck ve yar\u0131\u015f) develeri misalidir..Y\u00fcz tane i\u00e7inde (uzun mesafeye dayanacak ve hedefe kadar y\u00fck\u00fcn\u00fc ta\u015f\u0131yacak) belki bir tane bile bulamayabilirsin"[9]<\/a> <\/p>\n Herkesi kendi ayar\u0131nda ve diyar\u0131nda idare et… \u00d6rnek ve y\u00fcksek kabiliyetler \u00e7ok azd\u0131r… <\/p>\n Emek ve \u00f6nem verdiklerinin bir \u00e7o\u011fu c\u0131lk ve c\u0131v\u0131k \u00e7\u0131karsa hay\u0131flanma!.. \u00c7amurdan \u00e7eki\u00e7, hamurdan k\u0131l\u0131\u00e7 yap\u0131lmaz.. Ama yine de at\u0131lmaz. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bunlar\u0131n da \u00e7ok i\u015fe yarayaca\u011f\u0131 yerler vard\u0131r!.. <\/p>\n T-Son s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc, s\u00f6z ba\u015f\u0131nda sarf etme!<\/strong> <\/p>\n Bu, Minareyi tepesinden yapmaya kalk\u0131\u015fmak gibi bir yakla\u015f\u0131md\u0131r.<\/strong> <\/p>\n \u00d6zellikle uyar\u0131 yaparken, gerekenleri a\u00e7\u0131klay\u0131p anlatmadan, karanl\u0131k ve kapal\u0131 noktalar\u0131 ayd\u0131nlatmadan ve muhataplar\u0131n ayar\u0131n\u0131 ve amac\u0131n\u0131 ortaya \u00e7\u0131karmadan, en son s\u00f6ylememiz gereken sert ve net ifadeleri, en ba\u015fta kullanmak, diyalog ve dayan\u0131\u015fma kap\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 kapatmakt\u0131r. <\/p>\n U-D\u00fcr\u00fcst davran.. Samimi ol.. Rol kesme!..<\/strong> <\/p>\n Mevlana'n\u0131n dedi\u011fi gibi, hem oldu\u011fun gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcn, hem g\u00f6r\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn gibi ol.. Riyakarl\u0131k ve yapmac\u0131k maskeni \u00e7\u0131kar.D\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fck sana a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131k, samimiyet ise sayg\u0131nl\u0131k kazand\u0131r\u0131r. <\/p>\n \u00dc-\u0130ncitici genellemeler dile getirme:<\/strong> <\/p>\n "Karadenizliler \u015f\u00f6yledir", "K\u00fcrtler b\u00f6yledir", "Filan partililerin hepsi \u015fu \u015fekildedir", "\u015eu meslek sahipleri bu bi\u00e7imdedir"\u00a0 gibi insanlar\u0131n \u00fcst\u00fcne al\u0131naca\u011f\u0131 ve dar\u0131laca\u011f\u0131 genellemeleri b\u0131rak! <\/p>\n V-Sak\u0131n, selams\u0131z ge\u00e7me!..<\/strong> <\/p>\n Selam; sevgi ve bar\u0131\u015f parolas\u0131d\u0131r..Selam; iyi niyet ve samimiyet pusulas\u0131d\u0131r. Selam, kin ve intikam gibi kalbi hastal\u0131klar\u0131n pansuman\u0131d\u0131r.. Selam; saadet ve selametin pahas\u0131d\u0131r! <\/p>\n Selams\u0131zl\u0131k ise, g\u00f6n\u00fclleri karart\u0131r, ruhlar\u0131 pasland\u0131r\u0131r.Ve \u00f6zellikle g\u00f6rmemezlikten gelmek; onu yok saymakt\u0131r.Ve sevmedi\u011fini, istemedi\u011fini ortaya koymakt\u0131r.Yani darg\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa davetiye \u00e7\u0131karmak ve d\u00fc\u015fmanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 sat\u0131n almakt\u0131r.\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ho\u015flanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131\u00a0 ve varl\u0131\u011f\u0131na katlanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131\u011fa vurdu\u011fun bir insan, her halde sana dost kalmayacakt\u0131r. <\/p>\n Y-Nefret ettirme, i\u011frendirme!<\/strong> <\/p>\n \u0130nsanlar i\u00e7inde ve \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcs\u00fcz bir\u00a0 bi\u00e7imde, "esnemek, t\u00fck\u00fcrmek, s\u00fcmk\u00fcrmek, di\u015f temizlemek, t\u0131rnak kesmek, k\u00f6t\u00fc kokulu ve mide buland\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 \u015feyler yemek i\u00e7mek, burun kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmak, ayaklar\u0131 uzatmak" gibi davran\u0131\u015flarda elbette nezakete ayk\u0131r\u0131d\u0131r. <\/p>\n Z-Kendini satmaya ve \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck taslamaya yeltenme!<\/strong> <\/p>\n Marifet ve faziletlerini g\u00f6stermek… \u00d6v\u00fcnmek ve b\u00f6b\u00fcrlenmek… Gururlu ve kuruntulu tav\u0131rlar sergilemek; kabal\u0131k, haml\u0131k ve haz\u0131ms\u0131zl\u0131kt\u0131r. <\/p>\n Kendi kerametini anlatmak de\u011fil, kerem ve erdemini ortaya koymak laz\u0131md\u0131r. <\/p>\n \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc pekmezin kaliteli olursa, sine\u011fin ta Ba\u011fdat'tan gelip bula\u015facakt\u0131r.Ama ne kadar reklam etsen de, ho\u015faf suyunu pekmez diye sataca\u011f\u0131n ahmak zor bulunacakt\u0131r. <\/p>\n <\/p>\n [1]<\/a> S\u00fcnen-i \u0130bn-i Mace <\/p>\n [2]<\/a> Tirmizi <\/p>\n [3]<\/a> Sahih-i M\u00fcslim <\/p>\n [4]<\/a> S\u00fcnen-i Tirmizi <\/p>\n [5]<\/a> Bakara:30 <\/p>\n [6]<\/a> M\u00fcslim-Buhari <\/p>\n [7]<\/a> Yusuf:40 <\/p>\n
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