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Derici, sevdi\u011fi deriyi d\u00f6ver<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Hi\u00e7, kedi postundan, kemer olur mu?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Terbiyesiz deri, \u00e7irkefe d\u00f6ner<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Zahmetsiz, k\u00fclfetsiz; h\u00fcner olur mu?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Bazen Ho\u015f g\u00f6relim, Bazen bo\u015f verelim;<\/strong><\/p>\n Aman bazen da \u00e7o\u015fu verelim!<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00a0 <\/p>\n His ve heves d\u00fcrt\u00fcs\u00fcyle yap\u0131lan baz\u0131 davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n tekrar edildik\u00e7e al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k haline geldi\u011fi. Bu al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar\u0131n toplam\u0131n\u0131n da zamanla ahlak\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ve karakterimizi \u015fekillendirdi\u011fi ilmi bir ger\u00e7ektir. Bir\u00e7ok dinde veya felsefi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncede, baz\u0131 davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n s\u0131k\u00e7a tekrar edilmesi, onun huy edinilmesi i\u00e7indir. Ve unutmayal\u0131m ki, iyi veya k\u00f6t\u00fc huylar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n, olgun veya olumsuz davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n toplam\u0131: Kendimizin, de\u011ferimizin ve insanl\u0131k derecemizin g\u00f6stergesidir.<\/p>\n \u00d6yle ise, huzurlu ve hay\u0131rl\u0131 bir hayat ya\u015famak.. \u0130mrenilen ve sayg\u0131 g\u00f6sterilen bir insan olmak i\u00e7in \u00f6nce:<\/p>\n Sonra, geli\u015ftirip g\u00fc\u00e7lendirmemiz veya mutlaka de\u011fi\u015ftirip d\u00fczeltmemiz gereken huylar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131, \u00f6nem ve \u00f6ncelik s\u0131ras\u0131na koyup; \u00f6zellikle k\u00f6t\u00fc huy ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n tuza\u011f\u0131ndan ve tutsakl\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan kurtulmaya giri\u015fmelidir.<\/p>\n Baz\u0131 sorunlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ve ba\u015fka insanlar\u0131n bize verdi\u011fi s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131 bahane ederek; \u00e7i\u011f ve \u00e7irkin davran\u0131\u015flara devam etmek, en az\u0131ndan basitliktir ve nefsimize esarettir.<\/p>\n Kald\u0131 ki, \u00e7e\u015fitli sorunlar, s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lar; dert edindik\u00e7e derinle\u015fecek… Ama bunlar\u0131 ho\u015f g\u00f6rmeye, bo\u015f vermeye ve “vard\u0131r bir hikmeti…” bu da ge\u00e7er Ya hu!.. “diyerek; kader \u00e7er\u00e7evesinde de\u011ferlendirme\u011fe y\u00f6nelirsek, bize sald\u0131ran stres canavar\u0131n\u0131n k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fc ve mutsuzlu\u011fun ve umutsuzlu\u011fun bir nevi huzura d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fc g\u00f6r\u00fclecektir. Yani ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131za gelen olaylar\u0131n mahiyeti, bizim onlara bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131m\u0131za g\u00f6re \u015fekillenmekte ve de\u011fi\u015fmektedir.<\/p>\n \u015eimdi daha huzurlu ve onurlu ya\u015famak ve mutlulu\u011fu yakalamak i\u00e7in bir k\u0131sm\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ok ac\u0131 ve pahal\u0131 deneyimlerle \u00f6\u011frenebildi\u011fimiz baz\u0131 prensipleri sizlerle payla\u015fmak istiyorum.<\/p>\n Ne din’i ne de uhrevi y\u00f6nden sorulmayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z, sorumlu tutulmayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z konulara kar\u0131\u015fmay\u0131n… Yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z, \u00fcstelik alakas\u0131zl\u0131k ve ahmakl\u0131kla su\u00e7lanaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z \u015feylere bula\u015fmak: vaktinizi, eme\u011finizi ve potansiyelinizi bo\u015fa harcamakt\u0131r, durduk yere psikolojinizi bozmakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n Bu dedi\u011fimiz. Kendisinden ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmemek, kimseye yard\u0131m etmemek, sorumluluklar\u0131n\u0131 yerine getirmemek \u015feklinde anla\u015f\u0131lmamal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n “Felaha ula\u015facak (ve huzurlu ya\u015fayacak) olanlar\u0131n bir \u00f6zelli\u011fi de:<\/p>\n Onlar (la\u011fviyattan) gereksiz ve ilgisiz i\u015flerden, bo\u015f ve naho\u015f s\u00f6zlere giri\u015fmekten uzak durmaktad\u0131r.”[1]<\/a><\/p>\n \u00a0Hadislerde “Ki\u015finin kendisini ilgilendirmeyen i\u015flerden uzak durmas\u0131 ve bilgi\u00e7lik taslamaktan sak\u0131nmas\u0131, akl\u0131n\u0131n ve ahlak\u0131n\u0131n olgunlu\u011funa alamet” say\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n Sorunlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 da, sorumluluklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 da \u00f6nem ve \u00f6ncelik s\u0131ras\u0131na koymal\u0131, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck sorunlar\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fclt\u00fcp ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 a\u011fr\u0131tmamal\u0131d\u0131r. Pek \u00e7o\u011fumuz, hayat enerjimizi, bir s\u00fcr\u00fc basit problemi dert edinerek harcamaktad\u0131r..<\/p>\n Bu kendimizi ve potansiyelimizi israft\u0131r.. Bir insan, herkesten \u00f6nce kendisi ne ac\u0131mal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n “De ki: Ey nefislerini (potansiyelini) kendisi aleyhine israf etmi\u015f kullar\u0131m!..”[2]<\/a> ayeti bu konu da bizleri uyarmaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n Bir \u015fof\u00f6r\u00fcn trafik hatas\u0131na, araba beklerken birisinin yerini almas\u0131na, \u00e7ocu\u011funun \u00e7ay barda\u011f\u0131n\u0131 k\u0131rmas\u0131na, han\u0131m\u0131n\u0131n yeme\u011fin tuzunu biraz fazla ka\u00e7\u0131rmas\u0131na, G\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fcz birisinin can\u0131n\u0131 s\u0131kmas\u0131na… Hemen k\u0131z\u0131p k\u00f6p\u00fcrmek, \u00fcz\u00fcl\u00fcp k\u00fcsmek ve haddini bildirme\u011fe yeltenmek, elbette kendimizi israft\u0131r. Ve kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakine de insafs\u0131zl\u0131kt\u0131r..<\/p>\n \u00a0“Rahman\u0131n (ak\u0131ll\u0131 ve hay\u0131rl\u0131) kullar\u0131, gezip dola\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131 yerde, m\u00fcnasip ve m\u00fctevazi y\u00fcr\u00fcrler..<\/p>\n Bilgisiz ve g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fcz kimseler, kendilerine sata\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131nda onlara: Selametle (bar\u0131\u015f ve g\u00fcvenlik i\u00e7inde olun..)! derler..”[3]<\/a> ayeti kula\u011f\u0131m\u0131za k\u00fcpe olmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n Hayat\u0131m\u0131zda asla bitmez ve ba\u015f edilmez zannetti\u011fimiz nice musibet ve felaketler, gelip ge\u00e7mi\u015ftir. \u015eimdi sadece bir hat\u0131rad\u0131r. \u00d6yleyse, bu s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lar da, yak\u0131nda atlat\u0131lacak ve unutulacakt\u0131r. \u00d6yle ise elimizden \u00e7\u0131kan bir nimet veya f\u0131rsat i\u00e7in hay\u0131flanmak.. Yahut ba\u015faramad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z ve ula\u015famad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u015feyler i\u00e7in hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011framak bo\u015funad\u0131r. G\u00f6nl\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc ferah tutmak ve gerekli tedbirleri ald\u0131ktan ve g\u00f6revimizi yapt\u0131ktan sonra i\u015fleri oluruna b\u0131rakmak, bizi huzura ve rahata kavu\u015fturacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n Nerede sava\u015f\u0131p nerede s\u0131v\u0131\u015faca\u011f\u0131m\u0131za, Kiminle u\u011fra\u015f\u0131p kiminle uzla\u015faca\u011f\u0131m\u0131za.. Nelere s\u0131k\u0131ca yap\u0131\u015f\u0131p, nelerin pe\u015fini b\u0131rakaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131za; do\u011fru karar verebilmek hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 anlaml\u0131 ve ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 k\u0131lacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n Hz. Ali’nin dedi\u011fi gibi:<\/p>\n “Konu\u015fulacak yerde susmak korkakl\u0131k, susulacak yerde konu\u015fmak ahmakl\u0131kt\u0131r”<\/p>\n Bazen “(Tebli\u011f etmekle) Emrolundu\u011fumuz Hakikat\u0131 (m\u00fcnkir ve m\u00fcnaf\u0131klar\u0131n kafalar\u0131n\u0131) \u00e7atlat\u0131rcas\u0131na hayk\u0131rmak ve m\u00fc\u015friklere ald\u0131rmamak ve bizimle alay ve hakaret edenlere kar\u015f\u0131 Allah’a g\u00fcvenip dayanmak”[4]<\/a><\/p>\n Ebu lehep gibi ars\u0131zlara ve kar\u0131s\u0131 gibi huysuzlara kar\u015f\u0131:<\/p>\n “Yuh olsun size, iki eliniz (ve diliniz) kurusun!.<\/p>\n (\u015eeytan oca\u011f\u0131na) odun ta\u015f\u0131yan kahpeler kahrolsun!”[5]<\/a> demekte laz\u0131md\u0131r.<\/p>\n \u0130nanc\u0131m\u0131z ve insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z gere\u011fi, tebli\u011f ve tavsiye laz\u0131m, ama m\u00fcnaka\u015fa haramd\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc m\u00fcnaka\u015fa da nefisler devreye sokulmakta, kar\u015f\u0131dakine \u00fcst\u00fcn gelme h\u0131rs\u0131 ortal\u0131\u011f\u0131 kaplamaktad\u0131r. Peygamber Efendimiz ” Hakl\u0131 bile olsa, m\u00fcnaka\u015fay\u0131 terk etmedik\u00e7e kimse olgunlu\u011fa ve huzura kavu\u015famaz” buyurmaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n B\u0131rakal\u0131m, ba\u015fkalar\u0131 hakl\u0131 \u00e7\u0131ks\u0131n.. M\u00fcnaka\u015fay\u0131 onlar kazans\u0131n…<\/p>\n “(Olgun ve onurlu kullar) Yalan konu\u015fmaz, yalanc\u0131 \u015fahitlik yapmaz ve bo\u015f bele\u015f konu\u015fmalara (tart\u0131\u015fmalara, sata\u015fmalara) rastlad\u0131klar\u0131nda vakarl\u0131 (ve a\u011f\u0131r ba\u015fl\u0131l\u0131kla) oradan uzakla\u015f\u0131rlar”[6]<\/a> ayeti bize ders olmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n Ve hele d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn: sonu l\u00fczumsuz ve huzursuz kavgalara, darg\u0131nl\u0131klara sebep olacak yersiz ve gereksiz tart\u0131\u015fmalar y\u00fcz\u00fcnden ne felaketler ya\u015fanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n Bu, hem ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 art\u0131racak, hem sizi kendini be\u011fenen \u00f6v\u00fcnmeyi seven bir tip olarak tan\u0131tacak ve nefret toplayacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n Bir yak\u0131n\u0131n\u0131z veya arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131z ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 bir i\u015f yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda veya imrenilecek bir olay anlatt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, hemen kendinizin de o sahadaki bir ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 veya kahramanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 anlatma arzusu ve hatta o konuda bir yalan uydurma d\u00fcrt\u00fcs\u00fc, \u015feytandand\u0131r.<\/p>\n B\u0131rak\u0131n ba\u015fkalar\u0131 \u00f6ne \u00e7\u0131ks\u0131n.. B\u0131rak\u0131n ba\u015fkalar\u0131 alk\u0131\u015flans\u0131n.. Bundan gocunmay\u0131n.. Sizin \u015ferefinizin rasgele insanlar\u0131n sevmesi veya \u00f6vmesi ile artmayaca\u011f\u0131na inan\u0131n.. Kendinizi ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n terazisinde tartmay\u0131n.. Vicdan\u0131n\u0131zla bar\u0131\u015f\u0131k ya\u015fay\u0131n, yeter… Huzurunuzu, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n sizinle ilgili notunda de\u011fil, kendi ruhunuzda aray\u0131n..<\/p>\n \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc d\u00fcnya cennet de\u011fil, mihnet mek\u00e2n\u0131d\u0131r. Hayat bir imtihand\u0131r ve bu imtihanda neler sorulaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hangi sorunlarla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015faca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 belirleyen Allah’t\u0131r.<\/p>\n Elbette can\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 s\u0131kan \u015feyler olacak.. Elbette hi\u00e7 umulmad\u0131k sorunlar \u00e7\u0131kacak.. Elbette her \u015fey umdu\u011funuz gibi sonu\u00e7lanmayacak. Bunlar tabiidir, normaldir. Anormal olan, hayat\u0131 s\u00fct liman sanmakt\u0131r<\/p>\n \u00dcz\u00fclmek, endi\u015felenmek, tedirginlik g\u00f6stermekte do\u011fald\u0131r. Bunlar bir nevi savunma ve rahatlama mekanizmalar\u0131d\u0131r. Ama bunlara esir olmak, kendini yenilgiye kapt\u0131rmak yanl\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Bu d\u00fcnya, her \u015feyi dert edecek kadar \u00f6nemli say\u0131lmamal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n Belki onlar\u0131 bu t\u00fcr davran\u0131\u015flara iten mazeret ve mecburiyetleri vard\u0131r.. Belki sizi yanl\u0131\u015f anlam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Belki ba\u015fka problemleri ve yo\u011fun stresleri vard\u0131r da size \u00e7atm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n Size kar\u015f\u0131 sayg\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k ve sald\u0131rganl\u0131k yapanlar\u0131: Kendi \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131zm\u0131\u015f veya asla k\u0131ramayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z yak\u0131nlar\u0131n\u0131zm\u0131\u015f gibi bak\u0131n…<\/p>\n Bir tek yanl\u0131\u015f\u0131 y\u00fcz\u00fcnden kimseyi yarg\u0131lay\u0131p mahk\u00fbm etmeye kalkmay\u0131n…<\/p>\n Biraz a\u011f\u0131rda alan memura… \u0130lgisiz davranan doktor’a… \u0130ste\u011finizi geciktiren kap\u0131c\u0131ya hemen \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015fmay\u0131n… Hakl\u0131 bir nedeni olabilece\u011fini hat\u0131rlay\u0131n… O anda bir g\u00fcler y\u00fcz\u00fcn, tatl\u0131 s\u00f6z\u00fcn, gergin ortam\u0131 yumu\u015fataca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 unutmay\u0131n…<\/p>\n Elbette bilerek ve isteyerek yap\u0131lan ve toplumu tahribe \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan haks\u0131zl\u0131klar ve ahlaks\u0131zl\u0131klar kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda susmak dilsiz \u015feytanl\u0131kt\u0131r.<\/p>\n Bizim anlatmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z, \u015fahs\u0131m\u0131za y\u00f6nelik hatalar\u0131n ba\u011f\u0131\u015flanmas\u0131 ve ho\u015f kar\u015f\u0131lanmas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n Tam aksine, kendinizi s\u00fcrekli savunur, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 yarg\u0131larsan\u0131z, hem zalim, hem huzursuz olacaks\u0131n\u0131z. Evet, mutlu olmak ve olgunla\u015fmak istiyorsan\u0131z, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fil, kendinizi de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z… Ve bunu ba\u015farma \u015fans\u0131n\u0131z ve f\u0131rsat\u0131n\u0131z vard\u0131r… Ama muhatap olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z b\u00fct\u00fcn insanlar\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirip d\u00fczeltmeniz imk\u00e2ns\u0131zd\u0131r.<\/p>\n Ya\u011f\u0131\u015f ve s\u0131cakl\u0131k gibi hava \u015fartlar\u0131na ve tabiat ortam\u0131na g\u00f6re kendimizi uyarlay\u0131p ayarlad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z gibi, di\u011fer insanlara g\u00f6re de kendimizi ayarlayacak ve uyum sa\u011flayacak bir esnekli\u011fe kavu\u015fmam\u0131z laz\u0131md\u0131r. Bu durum, kendimiz kalarak, insanlar\u0131 idare etme sanat\u0131d\u0131r… \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc herkesi bize g\u00f6re ayarlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak; Tabiat\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak gibi bir ahmakl\u0131kt\u0131r.<\/p>\n a<\/strong>-Her g\u00fcn birka\u00e7 yak\u0131n\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 ve arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 telefonla aray\u0131p hal hat\u0131r sorun.<\/p>\n B\u00f6ylece dostluklar tazelenir. K\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131klar giderilir. S\u0131lai rahim yerine gelir.<\/p>\n b<\/strong>-Her g\u00fcn bir iki memur veya esnaf tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131za ziyarette bulunun… K\u0131sa bir “g\u00f6n\u00fcl alma” ve “Hak’ta ve hay\u0131rda sabit kalma” sohbetinden ve kendisini sevip takdir etti\u011finizi hat\u0131rlatt\u0131ktan sonra ayr\u0131l\u0131n.<\/p>\n c<\/strong>-Her g\u00fcn, devlet dairesindeki g\u00f6revliden, kap\u0131c\u0131n\u0131za, han\u0131m\u0131n\u0131zdan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131za, bakkal\u0131n\u0131zdan ayakkab\u0131 boyac\u0131n\u0131za, size iyilik ve ikramda bulunan herkese, i\u00e7tenlikle tebrik ve te\u015fekk\u00fcrlerinizi duyurun… Te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmesini bilmeyen, terbiye edilmeye en muhta\u00e7 kimsedir.<\/p>\n d<\/strong>-S\u0131k s\u0131k ve samimiyetle: Han\u0131m\u0131n\u0131za, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131za ve dostlar\u0131n\u0131za “onlar\u0131 \u00e7ok sevdi\u011finizi ve be\u011fendi\u011finizi s\u00f6yleyip, ruhunu ok\u015fayacak ve size g\u00fcvenini artt\u0131racak \u015feyler konu\u015fun!<\/p>\n D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn taziyeleri, \u00f6nemli g\u00fcnleri, m\u00fcbarek geceleri vesile bilerek telefonla mesajlar g\u00f6nderin…<\/p>\n Hatta baz\u0131 dostlar\u0131n\u0131za k\u0131sa da olsa, mektuplar yaz\u0131n… Unutmay\u0131n paras\u0131z veya \u00e7ok ucuza da b\u00fcy\u00fck iyilikler yap\u0131labilir…<\/p>\n e<\/strong>-En sevapl\u0131 sadaka,\u00a0 herkese ve g\u00fcler y\u00fczle selam vermektir.<\/p>\n Selam, en etkili sevgi ve bar\u0131\u015f el\u00e7isidir.<\/p>\n Hi\u00e7bir i\u015fimiz yoksa bile; hem y\u00fcr\u00fcmek, hem de kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131za selam vermek hay\u0131rl\u0131 i\u015fler ve iyi g\u00fcnler dilemek i\u00e7in d\u0131\u015far\u0131ya \u00e7\u0131kmam\u0131z bir fazilet ve fedak\u00e2rl\u0131k gere\u011fidir.<\/p>\n Sak\u0131n akl\u0131n\u0131zdan \u00e7\u0131karmay\u0131n; Her t\u00fcrl\u00fc niyet ve tavr\u0131n\u0131z, aynen size geri d\u00f6necektir. Siz ba\u015fkalar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyor ve nas\u0131l davran\u0131yorsan\u0131z, ayn\u0131s\u0131yla size kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k verilecektir. Huzuru da kusuru da kendinizden bilin!<\/p>\n f<\/strong>-\u00d6z\u00fcr dilemekten \u00e7ekinmeyin. \u00d6z\u00fcr dilemek, helallik istemek bir olgunluk alametidir. Ve hele size kar\u015f\u0131 yap\u0131lan yanl\u0131\u015fl\u0131k ve haks\u0131zl\u0131klar i\u00e7in yap\u0131lan \u00f6z\u00fcrleri sak\u0131n geri \u00e7evirmeyin. Affetmek, ho\u015f g\u00f6rmek \u015fereftir, y\u00fcceliktir. Hor g\u00f6rmek, kin g\u00fctmek ise, hafifliktir, basitliktir.<\/p>\n g<\/strong>-Sevgi ve bar\u0131\u015f elini, \u00f6nce siz uzat\u0131n… Ba\u011f\u0131\u015flayacak ve dostlu\u011fa yeniden ba\u015flayacak kadar g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc oldu\u011funuzu ispatlay\u0131n…<\/p>\n Ve tabii her t\u00fcrl\u00fc iyi niyetinizi tepeleyen ve ters tepki g\u00f6steren f\u0131trat\u0131 bozuklardan uzakla\u015f\u0131n!..<\/p>\n Her insan\u0131n, hatalar\u0131 yan\u0131nda hay\u0131rl\u0131 yanlar\u0131; K\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fcklerine kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k, kabiliyetli taraflar\u0131 oldu\u011funu da kabul ederek, onlar\u0131 k\u00f6kten d\u0131\u015flamay\u0131n… Zararl\u0131 tav\u0131rlar\u0131 y\u00fcz\u00fcnden, yararl\u0131 taraflar\u0131n\u0131, yetenek ve kazan\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131 katletmeye kalk\u0131\u015fmay\u0131n…<\/p>\n Hatalar\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fczeltmek ve de\u011fi\u015ftirmek istediklerinize, \u00f6nce hay\u0131rl\u0131 ve ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 taraflar\u0131n\u0131 tebrik ve takdir ederek s\u00f6ze ba\u015flay\u0131n…<\/p>\n Yani \u00f6nce y\u0131kay\u0131p haz\u0131rlay\u0131n, sonra ha\u015flay\u0131n!..<\/p>\n Ders almas\u0131n\u0131 bilenler i\u00e7in, tenkitler bir nevi terbiye ve ahlaki tedavi vesilesidir. Sen kendine g\u00fcveniyorsan ve vicdanen rahat bulunuyorsan, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n tekidi de, tebriki de, sizi fazla ilgilendirmemelidir. Size y\u00f6nelik \u00f6vg\u00fclerinde, s\u00f6vg\u00fclerinde asl\u0131nda bunlar\u0131 y\u00f6neltenlerin niyetinin ve seviyesinin bir g\u00f6stergesi oldu\u011fu bilinmelidir.<\/p>\n Herkesi memnun etmek m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fildir. \u0130nanc\u0131n ve vicdan\u0131nla bar\u0131\u015f\u0131k olman yeterlidir. Kendimizi insani ve \u0130slam’i de\u011ferlere g\u00f6re ayarlaman\u0131z gerekir. B\u00f6yle olduktan sonra, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n size y\u00f6nelik yergisi de, yarg\u0131s\u0131 da sadece manevi bir uyar\u0131 olarak g\u00f6r\u00fclmelidir.<\/p>\n Ani bir nefsi m\u00fcdafaa h\u0131rs\u0131yla harekete ge\u00e7mek, daha a\u011f\u0131r kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k vermeyi ve haddini bildirmeyi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek, sizin manevi enerjinizin mutluluk emeklerinizin bo\u015fa harcanmas\u0131 demektir.<\/p>\n Stres ve gerginlik; insan psikolojisini y\u0131pratan ve ruh sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 h\u0131rpalayan en etkili sebeplerdir.<\/p>\n Dinimize, devletimize, milli gelece\u011fimize ve g\u00fcvenli\u011fimize, namus ve haysiyetimize ve mukaddeslerimize y\u00f6nelik kas\u0131tl\u0131 sald\u0131r\u0131lar d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda, nefsimize zor gelen baz\u0131 tenkit ve tecav\u00fczleri ho\u015f g\u00f6rmek ve bo\u015f vermek gerekir… Rahmetli \u00dcstad\u0131m Palu’lu Hac\u0131 Haydar Efendi Hazretlerinin, dedi\u011fi gibi: Bir kula\u011f\u0131n\u0131z a\u011f\u0131r, \u00f6teki k\u00f6kten sa\u011f\u0131r gibi davranmak… Ve cahillerin sata\u015fmalar\u0131n\u0131 evcil hayvanlar\u0131n h\u0131rlamas\u0131 yerine koyup savu\u015fmak pi\u015fkinlik ve eri\u015fkinlik alametidir.<\/p>\n Tan\u0131d\u0131k, tan\u0131mad\u0131k her insana ve her mahluka iyilik yapmaya ve yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n…<\/p>\n \u0130yilik ehli, yararl\u0131 yemleri denize at\u0131verir. Atalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n dedi\u011fi gibi: Bal\u0131k bilmese de, Hal\u0131k bilir…<\/p>\n Hz. Peygamber Efendimiz “Herkese iyilik yap\u0131n\u0131z… Baz\u0131lar\u0131 belki o iyili\u011fe lay\u0131k bile de\u011fildir, ama b\u00f6yle davranmakla siz “iyilik ehli” say\u0131l\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z.” Buyurmaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n Unutmay\u0131n ki, iyilik, hi\u00e7bir kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k beklemeden yap\u0131land\u0131r. Aksi halde, bir al\u0131\u015fveri\u015ftir, bir d\u00fcnyal\u0131k yat\u0131r\u0131md\u0131r.<\/p>\n \u00d6zellikle sakat, sahipsiz, \u00e7aresiz, ihtiyar, hasta insanlara, b\u00fct\u00fcn hayvanlara, a\u011fa\u00e7lara ve do\u011faya sahip \u00e7\u0131kmak, katk\u0131da bulunmak ve b\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar\u0131 g\u00f6steri\u015f ve rekl\u00e2m amac\u0131yla de\u011fil, vicdani sorumluluk duygusuyla yapmak laz\u0131md\u0131r.<\/p>\n “K\u00f6y de\u011fi\u015ftirmekle, huy de\u011fi\u015ftirece\u011finizi” sanmay\u0131n!<\/p>\n \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc her gitti\u011finiz yere kendinizi de g\u00f6t\u00fcreceksiniz. Huysuz, uyumsuz ve huzursuz tav\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131zla birlikte gideceksiniz… \u00d6yle ise arad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ve arzulad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z mutluluk ortam\u0131na ula\u015fmak i\u00e7in mek\u00e2n\u0131n\u0131zdan \u00f6nce ahlak\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 ve bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmelisiniz.<\/p>\n E\u011fitim g\u00f6rmek, manevi terbiye edilmek, ilim \u00f6\u011frenmek, ticaret ve gezip e\u011flenmek i\u00e7in elbette seyahatler gereklidir ve g\u00fczeldir. Ama mutluluk i\u00e7in bunlar yeterli de\u011fildir. O’ sizin elinizdedir. K\u00f6y de\u011fi\u015ftirmekle huy de\u011fi\u015ftirmek m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n Canl\u0131 ve cans\u0131z b\u00fct\u00fcn varl\u0131klar\u0131 ve t\u00fcm olaylar\u0131 yaratan, bizzat ve her an Cenab-\u0131 Hak’t\u0131r. Ve Allah’\u0131n yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 her \u015feyde ve her hadise de nice hikmet ve hay\u0131rlar vard\u0131r. Felaket ve musibet gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnen \u015feylerin arkas\u0131nda bile, b\u00fcy\u00fck s\u0131rlar sakl\u0131d\u0131r. Baz\u0131 \u00e7irkinlikler ve eksiklikler dahi ilahi g\u00fczelliklerin daha iyi anla\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131 i\u00e7in birer vas\u0131tad\u0131r. Her olaya, bu kutsal ve ruhsal y\u00f6n\u00fcyle yakla\u015fan ve imtihan s\u0131rr\u0131n\u0131 yakalayan kimse art\u0131k olgunlu\u011fa ve mutlulu\u011fa ula\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n Onlar\u0131, bir anl\u0131k; k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeyen masum bir “\u00e7ocuk” kabul edin…<\/p>\n Veya bunam\u0131\u015f, ne yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilmeyen bir “ihtiyar” zannedin…<\/p>\n Hatta davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131ndan sorumlu olmayan ve kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k verdi\u011finizde ay\u0131planaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z bir “deli” olarak de\u011ferlendirin…<\/p>\n Dahas\u0131; O ki\u015fiyi, sizi ahlaken terbiye ve tedavi etmekle yetkili bir “veli” zat yerine koyup, \u00f6yle kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k verin…\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n B\u00f6ylece, hem kendinize hem kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakine daha \u0131l\u0131ml\u0131 ve daha sayg\u0131l\u0131 bir tav\u0131r g\u00f6sterecek ve \u00e7ok engin ve zengin bir i\u00e7 huzuruna eri\u015feceksiniz!..<\/p>\n Oysa k\u0131z\u0131p k\u00f6p\u00fcrd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fczde, hem maneviyat\u0131n\u0131za, hem de muhatab\u0131n\u0131za zarar vereceksiniz.<\/p>\n Her farkl\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f ve yakla\u015f\u0131mda, az da olsa sahip \u00e7\u0131k\u0131lacak ve sayg\u0131 duyulacak bir taraf mutlaka vard\u0131r. K\u00f6kten reddetmek yerine, \u00e7ay’\u0131n kumlar\u0131nda s\u00fczge\u00e7le alt\u0131n tanecikleri arar gibi, do\u011fru ve de\u011ferli y\u00f6nlerini ay\u0131klamak, yanl\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 sonra ortaya koymak daha insafl\u0131 ve insanc\u0131l bir davran\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n Her do\u011fan g\u00fcn bize yeni bir f\u0131rsat daha verilmi\u015ftir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bug\u00fcn d\u00fcnyada ki son g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz olabilir. Bug\u00fcn \u00f6lece\u011fini ve her \u015feyini b\u0131rak\u0131p gidece\u011fini bilen bir insan; nas\u0131l kul hakk\u0131ndan, kalp k\u0131rmaktan… \u00c7al\u0131p \u00e7\u0131rpmaktan ve her t\u00fcrl\u00fc g\u00fcnahtan sak\u0131n\u0131r… Hak’ka ve halka zulmedenlerden uzakla\u015f\u0131r… \u00c7evresinden, hakk\u0131n\u0131 yediklerinden, k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck ettiklerinden, iyilik g\u00f6rd\u00fcklerinden, helallik al\u0131r… Ve olanca samimiyet ve gayretiyle ahirete haz\u0131rlan\u0131rsa, bizim de \u00f6yle davranmam\u0131z gerekir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu ak\u015fam \u00f6lece\u011fimiz ihtimali, yar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rebilece\u011fimizden \u00e7ok daha y\u00fcksektir. D\u00fcn taziyesini yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n, bug\u00fcn cenazesine kat\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n arkada\u015flar\u0131n ve tan\u0131d\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n kurtulamad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bu son, seni de beklemektedir.<\/p>\n \u0130nsan \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc kadar, g\u00fcnah ve haks\u0131zl\u0131ktan sak\u0131n\u0131r. G\u00fcnah ve k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fckten uzakla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 kadar, g\u00f6n\u00fcl huzuruna ula\u015f\u0131r. Art\u0131k kabir ona cennet kap\u0131s\u0131, \u00f6l\u00fcm ona sonsuzluk \u015farab\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n Sizi ruhen dinlendirecek ve nefsinizi dizginleyecek ibadetlere vakit ay\u0131r\u0131n… Kur’an\u0131 ve kutsal kaynaklar\u0131 dikkatle okuyup tezekk\u00fcr… K\u00e2inat\u0131 ve mahl\u00fbkat\u0131 ibretle d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcp tefekk\u00fcr… Rabb\u0131n\u0131za ve O’nun ihsan ve ikram\u0131na g\u00f6n\u00fclden te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n… Kendinizi ve keyfinizi a\u015fmaya bak\u0131n… Manen derinle\u015fmeye ve ahlaki bir disipline girmeye ve y\u00fckselmeye u\u011fra\u015f\u0131n ve sonsuzlu\u011fa haz\u0131rlan\u0131n…<\/p>\n Son:<\/p>\n Her yerde ve her halde imtihandas\u0131n\u0131z… Unutma, her an Allah’\u0131n huzurundas\u0131n!..<\/p>\n Alaca\u011f\u0131n art\u0131 ve eksi puanlar\u0131n toplam\u0131, senin ahiretteki yerini ve dereceni olu\u015fturacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n Varl\u0131k ve rahatl\u0131k verilirse, \u015f\u0131marmamal\u0131… Darl\u0131k ve s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 gelirse \u015fa\u015f\u0131r\u0131p s\u0131zlanmamal\u0131s\u0131n…<\/p>\n Kur’an da \u00f6rnek g\u00f6sterilen komutan Callut gibi; Biat etti\u011fin liderin, itaatle g\u00f6revlendirildi\u011fin cihat emirin, m\u00fcr\u015fid-i k\u00e2milin veya \u00f6zel ekip reisin de: Seni pi\u015firmek, \u00e7\u0131banlar\u0131n\u0131 de\u015fmek ve yeti\u015ftirmek \u00fczere tecr\u00fcbe ve terbiye edebilir.<\/p>\n Vefak\u00e2rl\u0131k ve fedak\u00e2rl\u0131k seviyeni, sab\u0131r ve teslimiyet dereceni, y\u00fck ta\u015f\u0131ma ve zorluklara dayanma kapasiteni, beceri ve ba\u015far\u0131 yetene\u011fini belirlemek ve geli\u015ftirmek ve sonunda ayna tutup seni sana g\u00f6stermek i\u00e7in; nefsine a\u011f\u0131r gelen baz\u0131 teklif ve tavsiyelerde bulunabilir.<\/p>\n Sonu\u00e7ta;<\/strong><\/p>\n Fedak\u00e2r kazan\u0131r; f\u0131rsat\u00e7\u0131 ve sahtek\u00e2r kaybeder…<\/p>\n Cefak\u00e2r kazan\u0131r; calkazan ve riyak\u00e2r kaybeder.<\/p>\n Vefak\u00e2r kazan\u0131r; Hain ve hilek\u00e2r kaybeder.<\/p>\n \u015e\u0130\u0130R<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n Derici, sevdi\u011fi deriyi d\u00f6ver<\/p>\n Hi\u00e7, kedi postundan, kemer olur mu?<\/p>\n Terbiyesiz deri, \u00e7irkefe d\u00f6ner<\/p>\n Zahmetsiz, k\u00fclfetsiz; h\u00fcner olur mu?<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Damlay\u0131 ge\u00e7memi\u015f, derya arzular<\/p>\n Masiva pe\u015finde, Mevla arzular<\/p>\n “Dava! Dava!” diye, d\u00fcnya arzular<\/p>\n G\u00fcne\u015fe d\u00f6nmeyen, kamer olur mu?<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Ruhuna y\u00f6nelip derinle\u015fmeden<\/p>\n \u00c7\u0131banlar de\u015filmez irinle\u015fmeden<\/p>\n Sab\u0131rla yan\u0131p serinle\u015fmeden<\/p>\n \u00c7i\u011f et pi\u015fmedik\u00e7e, d\u00f6ner olur mu?<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Umreye milyar ver, fakire kuru\u015f<\/p>\n Bin t\u00fcrl\u00fc naz ile, bir sahte duru\u015f<\/p>\n \u00d6nce i\u00e7indeki g\u00e2vurla vuru\u015f<\/p>\n Nefsini yenmeyen, tam-er olur mu?<\/p>\n <\/p>\n [1]<\/a> M\u00fcminun Suresi: 3. ayet<\/p>\n [2]<\/a> Zumer:53<\/p>\n [3]<\/a> Furkan:63<\/p>\n [4]<\/a> Hicr:94-96<\/p>\n\n
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